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86a38 No.2345

How has your luck been with Feabie?

I like the overall concept of the site, but the community as a whole is a little toxic in my opinion. There are way too many "sex workers" and white knights on there.

I met a few nice women on there, even slept with a few (four) but I feel like I have to weed through so much bullshit and entitled "sex workers" just looking for money.

I wanted to get some opinion and experiences from you guys.

e39b1 No.2348

It's not as crappy as FantasyFeeder but there are many things about it that can be improved.
>I met a few nice women on there (…) but I feel like I have to weed through so much bullshit and entitled "sex workers" just looking for money.
The wonderful world of online dating in a nutshell.

10527 No.2350

There needs to be a totally separate site where any sort of financial exchange is against the rules. Maybe I should start one. There is no other way to redeem this community, imo - sex workers have ruined everything and have made it near impossible to discern who is genuine and who is in it for the money.

eb400 No.2351

Created an account there and I never really used it so far
There are nearly no people from my area and this "you really need to upload pics" stuff kinda pushed me away from it

Might log in again just to see what it's like now.

e31a1 No.2352

>>2345
I'm with someone now (not from the site) but when I had an active profile it worked pretty well for me. Between Feabie and Craigslist (seriously lol) I didn't have much trouble finding casual fun without having to pay for it.

All the howling and gnashing of teeth re: user base is a pretty easy fix, plus it's obviously going to be slanted towards women because they saw what happened to FF when it became a sausage fest with dick pics flying around too fast to count em which obviously made it preeetttty tough to keep women around for long. I usually roll my eyes at the whole "I have an iPhone camera and ate four cupcakes in my sweatpants on-screen for money, I'm a sex worker!" schtick too but I've had a lot of luck with women in my area(s) and would still 100% be on there if I didn't have a relationship atm.

Overall I think it's a step in the right direction, FF was such an unmitigated disaster near the end, at least Feabie has an active and decent sized female user base.

00ca5 No.2353

>>2345
The community and all the people who post regularly in the feed are super toxic, but if you are not a creep and lucky enough to have some people relatively nearby it works well enough, better then any other site Ive used at least. Have gotten a bunch of dates and even got laid a few times thanks to feabie.

00ca5 No.2354

>>2352
Honestly like 5+ years ago FF wasn't that bad, maybe it was all we had but I met one of my ex's through it.

1f01a No.2355

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>>2354
I honestly feel that FF is more genuine solely on the fact that it's sort of now devolved into an anonymous fetish board. No one is really concerned about meet ups as much as Feabie and just sort of go and indulge in their secret fetish. For the most part I find it very cpratical for what it is (if that made sense)

As for feabie I hate just about 80% of the people on there. Most of the women are only on it to leach off money from finically cucked men just so they can have extra booze money for college. And the chicks who are actually gaining are complete SJW cunts. There are a few women that still bring me back to the site like Glutton Queen (pic related) but I'm been learning to back away from it as much as I do with feabie. Profiles are just public text boxes to list off amazon wishlists and pay pal info.

I think making a fetish site resemble facebook as much as possible really brings out the cancerous crowd within the fetish. Kinda like DA with furries.

Also the front page feed is always packed full of the same repetitive shit "give me money, drama, bitch about something, trump sucks, bitch about something else more pointless"

i remember there was this big shit sturr about some of the former memebers of the site were going to go off and make their own feabie but with all these guidelines and "profile validation" strategies that were absolutely batshit insane. And it was going to be a couple's focuses site so like an anti dating site or something? Anyways it was really retarded and it never got off the groud and for MONTHS people would spam the feed with hashtags and shit

tl;dr
Feabie - 2/10
FantasyFeeder - 5/10

3ef9a No.2357

>>2355
I guess this says to me that we're looking for different stuff out of the sites, if I'm gonna be on one of these sites I'm trying to get laid. Feabie is miles ahead of FF for that.

I do agree that FF used to be better though. Idk I feel like your chances of finding a catfish to RP with on FF are way higher and sometimes that's all I'm looking for, but to go meet someone and actually do some food stuff, I'm all in on feabie, I met three girls off of FF and it went fine but it was like every third profile was fake or just disappeared or both.

3ef9a No.2358

>>2357

I'll also chime in on the whole giving money to the women thing: I don't do it often, the way you gotta play it is either you can watch them eat it or they record it and send it to you. If they're not down, that's cool I'm not gonna press the issue but that's the only way I'm sending anything. Of course, this is all sort of dependent on having at least a LITTLE bit of a prior relationship with the girl but seeing as a lot of people on this board seem to write them off personality wise (seems to revolve around distaste for social justice, I align with some of it, indifferent to the rest really), I get why this isn't more common. That's not really supposed to be a judgement, just an observation, if you guys really don't like interacting with that type of person who am I to say otherwise.

More to the point though, I'm an adult, I've got the money, 8.99 plus delivery gets me a custom amateur stuffing video and sometimes it's live? Yeah I can live with that, I'll just bring lunch to work tomorrow instead of eating out.

If you wanna call me "cucked" (fact: no one uses this word unironically) for dropping some coin on what I want to spend it on be my guest, I'm not terribly rich or anything, it's just not a lot of money to spend and this kind of stuff is why I prefer feabie to FF, it's MUCH easier to nail this sort of stuff down.

It ain't always possible for folks in this fetish to find someone to share it with in a low stakes, low judgement zone. I'm down with the site that makes it that much easier.

4c1d9 No.2360

I sort of like Feabie as a concept, but there isn’t much incentive for me personally (straight feedee woman, not a sex worker) to participate or come out of lurking

1. I don’t really care to "make friends in the feedism community", I have plenty of friends and I'm just not that interested in some guy from halfway across the globe who "just wants a chat" there's really nothing in it for me. It would be cool to be friends with a woman who “gets it”, but I don't really see that as a hole in my social net right now.

2. On the subject of "chatting", I've rarely ended (or had someone end) a conversation in which I didn't feel disgusted or used after. This happened a lot when I was younger on fantasy feeder or omegle and didn't understand that when guys were taking longer and longer to respond and then eventually disconnecting, they were just jerking off and then coming lmao. Now I usually just block/ignore any conversation that seems to be headed in that direction since a) I'm not a sex worker b) I don't need someone to spend $23 on my Amazon wishlist so I'll reply to them (I'll buy that stuff when I'm good and drunk thanks lol).

3. I’m lucky that I'm "attractive" to guys that aren't necessarily just into fat girls and I don’t need the feederism community to feel wanted. Even though I'm definitely fat at 5'6 and I usually weigh anywhere from 230-280lbs at any given time, I suppose my face and more “hourglassy" fat distribution give me more to work with than someone who might weigh the same as me but carry their weight in an area that may not be considered as appealing.

So with that I'm trying to say that I'm not starved for male attention. I try not to judge but I can usually tell when a girl is not at all used to the idea of being thought of as sexy/hot and it's clear they're finding a lot of new joy/validation through comments/likes/messages when they post a dirty mirror picture of their belly in the sink and their tank top pulled up under their boobs. I think I avoided a lot of that baggage since I’ve genuinely been into the idea of being a feedee since I was young, and I’ve always known at the back of my mind that someone out there found my fat ass sexy hahaha.

4. Then on the topic of actually meeting people, I would like to but whenever I try, I realize that my ideal partner would probably be a lurker (which is completely counterintuitive on my part). I also have little interest in talking to anyone that would probably be awful to hang out with in real life (people that post trollbait/seem unhappy depressed/are “famous” on feabie/use the word cuck/get into fights or drama etc etc.) I’m also not talking to anyone with a stupid name like “BellyLover123”.

If you already have all your mental “in real life” filters set up for a person you’d be interested in meeting (personal attraction, personality, level of education, nonsmoker, distance from you etc.) going on feabie can be depressing when you possibly find them and realize that they live far away.

My biggest qualifier in replying to someone is just asking myself if the person would still be normal/socially adjusted outside of feederism, and if I’d actually interact with them if I wasn’t just desperate for someone to stuff me full of cake — after a cold shower the answer is usually no sadly.

I know sometimes women complain about how many messages are in their inbox, but quantity isn’t quality. It reminds me of Silicon Valley when Jared paid for a bunch of people in India to use Pied Piper lol, like sure you have 1000 messages but does it really count if 990 of them are “hey sexy”/explicit pictures/in broken english/from someone 2X your age?

5. Add all this to the other miscellaneous bullshit women have to deal with when being online (dick pics, stalkers, once someone sent me a printed out photo of my feabie profile picture with cum all over it fml) it just turns out there’s just so much more for me to lose than gain (lol gain).

All this tldr stream of consciousness word vomit aside, I think everyone’s experience with a site that's both social and sexual in a kinky way like feabie really is up to the individual, what they’re trying to get out of it, their circumstances, and all the other things that you deal with on a dating site. I’m not really into anything else sexually but I can imagine that a site built like feabie that was for stuff like BDSM/furries/foot fetishists etc would probably end up with similar dynamics. I sometimes visit Grommr, and while it’s not a perfect contrast, they also seem to have issues with things like fakes, grey faces, trolls, people asking for money etc.

a7993 No.2362

>>2352
Ok but do you really want to date the sort of girl who posts revealing pics of herself to a fetish site?

>>2360
This. 100%. A nice self-respecting well-adjusted girl like yourself is exactly what I'm after, and yet for exactly these reasons you don't reveal yourself on FF or Feabie!

What about Tinder? Does this one work?

10527 No.2363

Female feedee here as well. I love being fat. I'm gaining for myself - not for anyone else. I've never understood why someone who is gaining for their own enjoyment would expect someone to pay for them to get fatter.

If I just started dating a guy, and he really liked seeing me wearing heels, I wouldn't say, “I’m not wearing heels anymore unless you pay me". lol The reason I wear heels is because I like wearing heels. Same goes for being fat.

I totally get a feeder wanting to buy food for his real life feedee, and helping her financially – but the scenario we see on every feedist related social media site is that girls are requesting money from hundreds of men simultaneously.

8e5f0 No.2364

>>2363

A lot of the fake "feedees" on Feabie don't seem to understand that for people who actually have the fetish, feedism isn't just "findom but with food instead of money." I get that findom is a real fetish that some guys genuinely get off to, but the idea of being an anonymous money slave has nothing in common with what turns me on as a feeder.

5943f No.2368

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>>2345
I met my girlfriend going on 3 years on Feabie and in like the last 3 months we both left because it just became a pity party and hate mob with no basis to any claims

At the start it was alright but it became way too cliquey and boring because you couldn't post anything without SOMEONE getting upset and whining about you

b4d8e No.2369

Feabie has definitely been a hit or miss with me. I'm interested in meeting friends in the community and being able to just talk regularly about feedism stuff, but I have to deal with a lot of idiots. A lot of girls on the site are nasty and bitter and treat feabie as though it's high school. White knights defend them and if you have any sort of opposing view you get shamed and harassed over it.
Unfortunately for me the local men are terrible. They just want to hookup or hang out "at home" aka they're closet FA's. or I just get completely ghosted.
I do post revealing pictures of myself because I love my body and I love others that can also appreciate it. I understand with that naturally I'll have to deal with fuckboys that constantly message me.
To be honest I've had a lot more luck making friends in the community through discord and Reddit than I ever have on feabie.
I'd rage feabie a 3/10. Too many immature cliques, thirsty fuckboys, and women that beg for money constantly.

3ef9a No.2370

>>2362
Depends. If we really clicked I don't think I'd care very much. But I never used it for "dating", I used it to hook up, I'll hook up with a girl who posts revealing pictures of herself to a fetish site 7 days a week and twice on Sundays.

934d6 No.2371

Maybe it’s because I’m a woman but I honestly don’t care about the sex workers or people asking for money at all. It’s definitely annoying when people post and talk about selling clips or their wish lists, but it’s something that literally has nothing to do with me so I just don’t give a shit, but that’s probably because I don’t have to browse through profiles of women so I’ve never had to filter through people in this particular way.

If I lived in a trailer in a nowhere town or had a dead end job and I was struggling supporting myself, and my choices for affection were billy joe the opioid addict, some guy who won't be seen with me in public, or some guy who lives across the country but comments “cute belly” and sends me Wendy’s gift cards - I would also probably choose to ask people for money online. I’m also mostly talking about people who aren’t bona fide sex workers like bigcutie models or something — just random girls in their bedroom with the samsung beauty filter at a 10, bad eyebrows, and poorly lit photographs lol

I guess I consider myself lucky that I’m in a position in life where
a) I’ve never needed $20 or a meal so badly that I was willing to rub my stomach over skype for it
b) the opportunity cost of posting my belly online in a sexual way would affect me more negatively than positively {I’m thinking of people who would suffer from career suicide if like a senior partner of their company came across these pictures} — so yeah let’s say I go back in time and I’m a 19 year old student and I magically make $5 000 in a month off of selling Clips 4 Sale, and premium snapchat etc. and I get a great new wardrobe out of it - but I have way more to lose in the long run when I'm 31 and it comes to potential opportunities I’ve lost in my career because I have revealing pictures of myself online.

irl I definitely have the expectation of my partner to spend money on me or treat me to things (like I would with them), but that has nothing to do with feedism. If I was with a feeder, “spoiling me” would definitely intersect with feedism — but just randomly asking random guys for money or food online doesn’t really appeal to me.

I would also like some sort of flirty feedism centered conversation, but posting “hey message me! :) ” is just an invitation for awful messages, and I don’t want to be that asshole girl who posts “hey I think I’m better than these other girls because I’ll talk to you about feedism for free and they just want a dominos sponsor”. If I did that,
1) my inbox would be flooded by thirsty guys
2) the wrath of all the sex workers and their fans on feabie will come down on me hahaha
3) that’s a really shitty thing to broadcast
4) any guy that would respond positively to something like that is not one that I’m interested in anyway tbh
So I end up posting my failed twitter drafts about the weather or mcdonalds hashbrowns that nobody (including myself lol) really cares about, and just usually don’t bother posting at all.

I also don’t interact with anyone that doesn’t appear to meet my standards. I think that’s why I’ve been lucky and not had to deal with people ghosting me or being disrespectful or anything. I also block or ignore anyone that posts, comments, or messages me something even slightly annoying. I also took down the 2 pictures I had that showed my face and body and substituted it with one awkward photo with my head cropped out (that I hate because I don’t like people with ugly pictures and now I have an ugly picture hahaha) and the traffic to my inbox has taken a noticeable drop.

The only reason I really am on feabie is to find a person that I would like to be with who is *also* into feedism. So I’m never going to compromise my normal standards for a person that I would want to be with, just for the sake of feedism. Fortunately I’ve met 5 really awesome people through feabie who were what I’m looking for as a whole on top of being into feedism (but that was 5 people over a year and a half and 3 cities and 3 countries), but I think it’d be a stretch to think that my experience necessarily parallels other girls, or that it could be comparable to a guys experience.

Ime most of the people that think that Feabie is a “toxic hellhole” are usually pretty unsavoury themselves, and are pretty easy to spot and avoid anyway.

From what I’ve seen, anyone that complains about people online and the stuff I’ve seen people get pissy about on feabie then storm off to complain about on reddit/this site almost always involve them posting something genuinely stupid or questionable and then having a fit when a bunch of people call them out on their stupid opinion. So sure the clique of 5 people who comment and call you out/trash talk you for being ‘sexist/racist/whatever’ are the worst, but so are you for slightly being a bigot and thinking anyone gives a shit about your thoughts on something touchy in the first place.
Arguing with them, and then posting another status later about getting “harassed by all the sjws and white knights” is stupid behaviour and I’ve never seen a 100% innocent or reasonable post brigaded by the soldiers of feabie, and OP coming out not looking like a defensive loser afterwards.

I understand that people on Feabie can appear to be sensitive or pedantic with a lot of things, but ignoring a reply or deleting a status all together is free — same with just not posting anything that could incite arguments or strong opinions in the first place (religion, politics whatever.
I posted once about how I was happy that it was an abnormally warm day, and someone commented something about climate change and then 2 other people started having a discussion/argument on it on in my comments then someone else asked me why I wasn’t replying… Yeah climate change is a huge issue and perhaps this winter has been unusually warm because of it, but that’s obviously not what I meant… I just deleted that post entirely instead of engaging with it since I literally had nothing to gain from it, it’s really that easy.

With all this I can’t say I find a lot of women bitter or anything, but a lot of people would rather correct someone and get into an argument vs. just blocking or scrolling past someone that annoys them. But I think this is true of the internet and any online community in general, and is not necessarily exclusive to feabie. I can also understand that some people are more invested in “the feedism community” than I am, and might feel more of a need to moderate other users and keep things flowing to the way they feel is appropriate.

I feel sort of gross typing all this out as it seems sort of self-indulgent and arrogant on my part but honestly all these thoughts have been stewing on my mind for ages.

tldr
My whole feabie experience can basically be boiled to poem Masks by Shel Silverstein:
“She had blue skin,
And so did he.
He kept it hid
And so did she.
They searched for blue,
Their whole life through,
Then passed right by-
And never knew.”

>>2364
I totally feel you on this. I don’t really know how to stand out as a more “sincere” feedee, without it looking like I'm shitting on other women or calling attention to myself, so I just quietly lurk lol. So while the idea of waking up and getting stuffed with a hundred cupcakes and a feeder to put them in my mouth is absolutely fantastic, there’s no joy in it for me if it’s because some guy through the internet that I only talk to through Skype sent them to my house.

>>2362
Tinder or any other dating medium are fine imo, but the only obstacle is that I would be nervous about breaching the topic of feederism with someone who might not have any idea what I’m talking about.
Outside of feedism I’m personally more reserved/innocent when it comes to sexual things in general, so bringing something up like this with a guy I met at a club, or at school, or on tinder (basically just not feabie lol) could get very awkward, to the point where I’m fine just ignoring it and leaving it out all together. I really would only bring it up with someone I was completely 10000% comfortable with (and that’s only happened once and he was fortunately kind of into it lol).
So I generally don't mind Tinder and I like it for more vanilla dating, but it’s not something that I think I could rely on for specifically finding a feeder, and while I'm not really looking for hookups I also don't take Tinder matches too seriously

92a9d No.2374

I met my bf on there and honestly just stay for the lulz at this point. It's not as fun as it was but I still have friends I like to talk to and sometimes there's drama interesting enough to catch my interest and give me a chuckle.

Honestly it's pretty easy to focus on what you're looking for and nothing else. There's plenty of women looking for hook ups or relationships. There will literally never be a feedist community completely free of people asking for money. It's a site based around a fetish that most ppl associate with sex so. Good luck with that one. Join a dating site or tinder if you want to steer mostly all the way clear of that.

As long as you're not a blank profile just saying 'hey' and treat the person you're talking to like a person then your chances of finding what you want are pretty good. Distance can always be a bitch but that's the internet.

3ef9a No.2375

>>2371
I agree with a lot of what you're saying. My post earlier where I took a jab at the whole "sex worker" thing was kind of a semantic one, for some reason that wording gives me douche chills. Like ok yes technically you got paid to eat 44 twinkies that one time, but to me they are to actual sex workers what mall cops are to officers on the police force.

10000% agree that if I were in college or something and could make some money that easily I'd be all over it

>most of the people that think that Feabie is a “toxic hellhole” are usually pretty unsavoury themselves


Really hit the nail on the head here lol, I knew I couldn't be the only one that was glad that most of these people had been driven off lol.

32e8e No.2376

I got super lucky and met someone on there. We've been dating for 8 months now. It's my first real relationship and it's amazing.

32f21 No.2378

>>2360

This right here, not a woman but I just want to meet someone who's cool with this and who I can click with for realsies. Generic dating sites sometimes work there's certainly a lot less of this kind of 'fetish4pay' business but most people aren't into this kinda stuff at all and I don't want to think I'm pushing it on someone who wasn't interested. I couldn't give less of a damn about the "community", I'm not ashamed to go out with a big girl in public or date one and I have but most of the people there just aren't the kind of crowd I'd normally associate with and bonding over a kink with people I'm not dating feels a bit off.

10527 No.2379

Has anyone here had experience with BBW dating sites? Seems it might be a better option for finding a lasting, long term relationship, since feedist sites are more sexually (and monetarily) oriented. My ideal partner would be a fat activist foodie, not sure if I'd be able to find someone like that on a non-feedist site or not.

42f73 No.2381

I haven't been on Feabie since early summer, but I was a member for roughly a year and a half. I stayed off the newsfeed and just talked to models and "internet famous fat girl" types in private chats. Had a couple flings but nothing long-term or romantic.

In my experiences, the inner circles of Feabie look a little tough to get into when you first sign up, but most of the women are actually extremely friendly and fun to talk to as long as you're, y'know, not a total douchebag or cheeto-dusted neckbeard nice guy type. Again, I didn't really participate in the newsfeed and I still made friends, some of them pretty high profile in the community. Overall my experiences were extremely positive.

The men are definitely 99% trash though. I had to set my newsfeed to just only show posts from women. You avoid almost all the drama that way.

1c492 No.2382

I've been in a relationship since before Feabie came out so I've never used it to date or hook up with anyone IRL, but I have an account there and log in occasionally just to see what's happening. I agree with the general consensus in this thread, seems to me like it's probably a decent way to meet people as long as you stay away from the newsfeed and don't mind having to filter out women who are just there for wishlists/camming and guys who are just there to add to their spank bank.

That said, I *do* think the newsfeed is incredibly toxic – even leaving aside politics, it seems like there's always some sort of Mean Girls clique drama going on with lots of subtweeting between rival gangs, from people who would probably be better off if they spent less time on the Internet and more time working on getting their real life shit together. Maybe they're all nicer in private, but idk, I can't imagine spending all day bathing in that much negativity.

1c492 No.2383

>>2379

For what it's worth, my best experiences meeting people for actual relationships have been through normie dating sites. Like >>2371 said, no luck finding one who is also into feederism, unfortunately. In some ways it's easier to look for someone I have a lot in common with who happens to be fat, than to look for fat people and hope one of them has enough in common with me to make a relationship work. OkCupid is particularly good because the survey system it uses to match people has a bunch of useful questions related to weight, including "would you consider dating a fat person?" where "yes, in fact I prefer fat people" is an option. Back when I was active there I used to get messages out of the blue from girls who saw that in our match list, lol.

2e85d No.2388

4 hookups on feabie, all of them ended poorly

00ca5 No.2392

>>2388
Yeah I dont live near a major city, hooked up with the one girl nearby, turned out she was in a sexless marriage and was cheating on her husband with me. She was a good lay, but things got too dramatic.

ae075 No.2393

i've attempted to find a few dates on feabie but all the men that i seem to click with live too far from me. locally it seems like there's no one. i ended up deleting my account anyway so eh

40b14 No.2397

>>2393
where you from?

40b14 No.2398

>>2388
>Ended poorly
so you fucked them and then something bad happened? Or the fucking itself was bad? Elaborate

ae075 No.2411

>>2397

small town in kentucky. i'm guessing a lot of the guys who are into fat women live in bigger cities

82f11 No.2413

>>2411
i don't think the proportion is any greater rural vs. urban. i think it's just a question of population density, and since cities have such high density it creates the appearance of what you're describing.

82f11 No.2414

>>2383
also, i can corroborate this. i'm a decent looking young guy and i set "no, in fact, i prefer overweight people" to the question asking if you would date an overweight person. i then proceeded to basically search out the girls who's profile pics suggested they were fat. i got almost every girl i looked at to at least check my page too and probably 1 out of 3 liked my profile.

if you're not good looking or if your profile looks weird i don't think what site you're on will ever make a difference though.

3be09 No.2428

I don't know what to make of my experience. It's been somewhere between good and bad.

Pretty decent guy. Just under 25, living in Baltimore. I honestly don't know where I stand on the attractive scale though

As far as talking to women, my first messages must be crap…it's been months since I last found a woman who didn't ghost me or quit Feabie as good things got along. I guess it's my lackluster strategy of kindly saying "hope your day is going well" because that's the best I can do. I try to go off and find something interesting in ladies' profiles, but a good majority of my finds don't even bother to put any depth to that. At the very least, most of the ones I do talk to still or currently are pretty good women. Some are feeders, some are not. Also, of those women I regularly keep up with, I have their Kik to hit them up as most of them don't use Feabie on a daily. The best woman I talk to lives further north (like in the New England area)…I hope to meet up with her in another city next year. The closest person I keep up with lives a mile outside of DC. I also hope to get to see her soon.

Speaking of meetups, I have met two people in my town. Both weren't feeders though. Talked for a month, then we took a walk in the park one fall Saturday last year. Been trying to meet up since, but she's either been too busy or too tired. Sucks because she has asked me before to hang at her place, but I still keep up with her too. And there's only one women I do feed on occasion, but also have good conversation with on everything else.

My second meet was this past March. Went out for dinner with a young non-feeder, and though slightly more awkward than my first, I wasn't shook by it. She and I agreed to meet again a few days later, but when I decided to text her the day before, she never got back to me. The next month of calls and texts, even for conversation became a slow ghosting process and well…that was history. Another lost opportunity

Since that March meet, I've been struggling. Haven't been close to setting up a first date with anyone in town and the the best girls I talk to are still more distant. I took off for a month after some crappy posts, but still no luck.

Either I don't stand out very well amongst the other guys or the girls who do like me are VERY VERY few out there. I don't send out dick pics or trash other women for not replying to me, but I know that's no guarantee to anything these days. I can't seem to send unique first messages to save my own life right now, the women within reach just don't seem to like me at first glance, and here I am trying to figure myself out.

I don't want this to come off as rant, but rather thought. Clearly, I have no mind control powers, so I can't force my way onto somebody. I don't expect to nail every woman's attention. I don't consider myself a closet FA (My last GF was fat; I enjoyed everything about her). But now, I just wonder if the problem is me, competition, or the field of women. Maybe I'm always reaching for the super attractive ones and I'm just another head fapping to their beauty behind a computer or phone. Maybe I just don't know my way around Feabie, let alone, dating sites/apps as a whole and I need a 101 class on it. I don't know…I'm done overthinking before I wear out anyone's attention span to read this.

Long story short: I chat with a few, I feed one every now and then, I met up with two and got nowhere since…is that bad or good?

1dac6 No.2432

Whats unique about YOU? Are you clever, or rich? Do you go to the gym, or do sports? Sell yourself!

3ef9a No.2434

>>2428
If you're chatting w/ a few and have actually met up with/fed you're probably doing better than ~70% of dudes on there.

I'm a lot like you (same area even, shoutout Baltimore), I get told I'm good looking by girls on there, I've had a lot more chats than actual fulfilling meetups (online dating in a nutshell I think), I usually open with a bad joke or something to get a laugh. If I see something we have in common I'll ask about it with a detail that I know isn't just going to be like "wow he googled that 5 seconds ago and is now trying to fake an interest to talk to me", it's not often that ONLY having the same fetish and a maybe-pretty face is going to get you anywhere. Maybe irl, but on the internet when all you've got is a few carefully selected pictures and your words, you've gotta find a way to stand out.

You've got a lot of words here typed out which makes me think you're probably thinking about this way too hard. Just relax, have a beer, and send a message or 10 to some people nearby that you think might be down to lick peanut butter off of your body one day because you are both just that into each other.

f91f7 No.2439

I bailed on FF when they decided to take features that had been on the site for almost 10 years and then suddenly lock them all behind paywalls. Feabie isn't much better

2e85d No.2451


246a6 No.2455

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>>2381

This was my exact same experience too. I'm decently attractive but not a model. I just messaged the girls normal things and didn't bring up their weight at all. I had a response rate of neat 50%

A lot of the girls thanked me for treating them like a person instead of a fetish, but still indulged in fat chat once I talked for a bit. Got some videos sent to me too.

No hookups though, I live in the midwest in the middle of nowhere :/

2e85d No.2458

play league of legends with them, make joke about feeding, ask them to come over. this shit isn't rocket science

a5a4b No.2539

>>2458
Agreed.

e31c0 No.2617

>>2455
I have even more trouble than usual I think, since I'm really shy and insecure about my interests and don't really feel like many people are gonna be interested in listening to me talk, but I try to be as nice and approachable as possible with everyone I reach out to.
But a lot of times at first I just would shoot out a message saying "Hey, I'd love to talk, I'm really shy, ask about something I like, ask them to tell them about themselves" yadda yadda. I'm kinda bad with starting conversation too. I've only hit it off with a handful of people and it really sucks. 2 of them lived near me, the other 5 or so lived up north.

I dunno, I'm also pretty reasonably attractive too, but maybe I'm just not as approachable? Maybe I come off as artsy or geeky or niche? I don't really know. I rack my brain about it often.

Anyway, point is, I have about the same luck doing the same thing you do and I'm even in the middle of super urban Houston in Texas. Most people just don't respond no matter how nice you are.

b5eea No.2627

>>2355
I just have to ask, who is this in the pic? Is she someone off feabie?

e0b2b No.2629

I would love to know how much attention women really get in online-dating. Do girls really get messages from men non-stop?

I put a picture of my avarage face, added info about myself and sent a few messages to pretty girls. Only one attentionhungry teen answered and then ghosted me.

How do I don't become a revolting creep or a thirsty fuckboy? How does one compete against thousands of other men?

10527 No.2630

>>2629
When I was active on Feabie and elsewhere I got hundreds of messages daily. It was pretty much impossible to answer them all. The irony is that the two guys I ended up chatting the most with were unattractive, super nerdy (and slightly autistic) types.

770c3 No.2631

>>2629
>How do I don't become a revolting creep or a thirsty fuckboy? How does one compete against thousands of other men?

you be a normal person? and at the very least, have photos of yourself and a profile filled out.

real messages i've gotten and did not respond to:
>that tinder boy is gonna,be the luckiest boy on earth when that period ends
>Perfectly curvy just like the roads of West Virginia
>Hey how are ya an yes iv got pics lol
>You look sOo hot babe
>Hi. Love your hair. Looks really long.
>Hi there beautiful
>Hi how are you
>Hi
>Hey
>You have pretty eyes and a warmth about you. I am a shy little boy seeking the friendship of a strong yet caring nurturing momma like you. Will you please message me.

messages i've responded to, even if the conversation eventually went nowhere:
>Your dreads are awesome 😊
>How did you even cope meeting bob the drag queen?
>tryna get on your level with dreads, damn.
>Heartache is the worst. I'm sorry things didn't work out between you two.

i think you can see the difference.

80605 No.2632

>>2631
>>2630

I see. So in order to get a girl, I must not message her ever. Got it.

I already got pictures and a decent profile page. I can't be so ugly. I know that I'm usually competing with tens to thousands of other guys but please tell me for real what women want to hear from me?!

I have had multiple girlfriends, but I always have trouble getting fat girls or getting any contacts online.

a8b98 No.2633

>>2632
Can you truly not see the difference between those two groups of messages?

770c3 No.2634

>>2633
yeeeeah. i'm starting to see the issue.

c98df No.2635

>>2631
>>2632
>>2633

I dont see the problem with the long hair comment but other than that:

They're trying to
All the other top comments are either boring, very awkward, or a combination of both.
The bottom ones have at least some interest put into them, or consideration for the other person.
If you see someone on a dating site and message them, they already know you think they're attractive, sort of an unspoken understanding, much the same in real life, since that's 80% of the time how you get a first impression. As such, try to show people that, you too, are a person. Use her listed interests to start a conversation, tie in your (non fetish based) interests, people generally don't like talking to one dimensional people.

If nothing is really relatable, maybe ask her an interesting question (what would you do with a million dollars, anywhere you'd love to visit, if you could own any animal as a pet… etc. etc. etc.) think up your own because those are all pretty basic.

Try to do some kind of ice breaker, play a question game of some sort.

Show some genuine interest, even more important, show them that you're brain isn't 100% consumed by your desire to fuck their profile picture. Your goal when meeting someone new shouldn't be to get them wet. Instead, just get to know them.

80605 No.2636

Okay okay.
I'm just pissed off because life ain't easy. I wish I will get to experience my fantasies at least once in my life. Until then I got to make do with my boring, avarage sized girlfriends.

770c3 No.2638

>>2635
>I dont see the problem with the long hair comment

well, if you read it with the context of my photos, like… i have two that were specifically uploaded to show how long my hair is (which is extremely). so all that i could think to respond with was "uh, duh".

10527 No.2639

>>2632
I'd say don't give up hope and just be yourself. For me it was never about looks. I'm more into chatting with like minded people rather than hooking up with someone based on appearance. As I mentioned earlier, most of the guys I responded to were major geeks and not at all attractive physically. People think that the most sought after gainers only chat with the best looking guys but that's entirely untrue (at least in my case).

a77c8 No.2865

Just started using this, amazing people actually want to talk about fetishes and junk so easily!
What time does the day cycle for free user limits?

326be No.2880

this site isn't all that bad, but I agree with the OP. Sex workers are a protected class on there, lynch mobs for wrong think, mods that don't do anything when shit actually does go sideways (thus giving credence to the victimization of many of the overgrown children of feabie) and the drama is past cringy. I've met a few level headed people there, but they are all the types to not get very active with the community.

bcbc2 No.2881

One thing I definitely wonder about is how many high-profile men in the Feabie community also frequent bbwchan. I'm willing to bet it's a lot. Everybody loves free porn.

68c79 No.2939

Feabie and "high-profile" seem like a contradiction in terms.

39786 No.2962

>>2880

This. Guy said some stuffer31 models were lazy in regards to their content. A bunch of women come out to shit on him. Opinions are not welcome on Feabie unless it’s one of their own. That and I think the lazy content triggered a few since there’s a good amount of lazy content models on there.

68c79 No.2981

>>2962

No more lazy than others. The website is absolute shit, though. It's impossible to sort though them all.

Hard to tell whether a model you like had her content wiped, since you can't find them in either case. There's definitely a few missing but you can only see them on pornhub.. with their names removed, annoyingly.

326be No.3009

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damn, idk if you all are following this #makefeabieasafeplaceforwomen stuff, but holy shit it's great!

if the mods would just actually regulate their own site, it wouldn't have feminist uprisings like this. the site will obviously never allow for calling out of other users. fucking everyone would be called out for saying something slightly against "the agenda" and be ousted for not having the correct opinions. completely avoidable if the mods actually took cases of legitimate harassment seriously

81976 No.3024

It's ok for wank material but other than that its gone to shit, there's a few genuinely nice people on there but the mods are awful. Overall there's too many creeps posting random shit thinking its Facebook and then there's over the top SJWs constantly preaching crap, which is fine usually as long as it isn't constant whining as it often unfortunately is.

6b583 No.3077

>Go to WoopPlus thinking I'll get nice dates and maybe a few meetups
>get nothing for about 2 months
>get Feabie
>Get both dates and meetups planned no sweat
Been a serious member for about 2 weeks. Day like 2 a girl hmu and we're meeting up later this week, and I've got another meetup planning in the works. With the sexy chats I've had and pic exchanges between people my dick's been bled dry every day. I constantly juggle between like 4 convos at once at all times, so I always have someone to talk to. This shit is amazing. I wish I found this like years ago.
Probably helps that people
>can message each other without having to approve of the other off the bat
and
>are much more liberal about adressing sexual needs/desires
I mean that's why we're looking for fat/fat admiring people, right? For desired sexual relationships, with or without romance behind it.
Well I suppose some people just come for the community and emotional support, which is fine too.

40b14 No.3101

>>3077
whereabouts are you from? You don't have to be specific lol

1c492 No.3117

>>3009

tl;dr of this? I deleted my account because I got sick of the nonstop drama but I always like to hear it secondhand

50170 No.3132

Watching the drama from afar, it's really dumbfounding to me how tone-deaf the admins are. It's like they're going out of their way to piss off the group of people who generate the most traffic for them.

1c492 No.3133

>>3132

I'm 100% certain that the majority of Feabie users are men trawling the picture feed for a wank and that (behind the scenes) this is what Feabie's business model is based on. The social features of the site are just bait to get women to contribute content. Unless every woman on the site goes on strike at once, which ain't gonna happen, the site owners have no incentive to change.

9881c No.3138

>>3133
I really hope stufferdb introduces new features to more directly compete with feabie, like profiles. At least they seem true to the userbase, unlike the out of touch and greedy feabie admins.

95908 No.3145

Its strange how much better the community is on Grommr (Men for Men gaining) than Feabie. I started on Feabie but now that one is just a ghost town because all the girls in my area are just fat people who want to be treated like 10/10s

6b583 No.3166

>>3101
East coast Va. Decent population, not bumfuck nowhere, but DC is still like 3 hours away.

f332e No.3230

>>3009
On one hand, the mods can't be assed to consistently enforce most of their rules, which is how shit like this usually starts.

On the other hand, the overwhelming majority of the most vocal supporters are the people who piss and moan about how awful men are 24/7, and want the site to become an ideological echochamber, and only give a fuck about women who agree with them. See also: Any woman who critiqued the tag early on. Basically, the tag has almost exclusively been perpetuated by the most toxic section of the female part of the community. Which is a damn shame, because again, the mods really need to enforce their own damn rules. Barely any rules need to even be added. At the very least, I hope they expand the "no misandry/homophobia/transphobia" rule to cover all sexes, sexual orientations, and gender identities. Lord knows the site needs it.

On the flipside, there are some pretty great women there. Actually hung out a few times with one, before she went dark for reasons unknown.

6b583 No.3268

I kind of wish men were allowed unlimited blocks like women are. I've had a few people piss me off, and I really don't want to see them in the newsfeed and forget who they are (or mistake them for someone else if they do a new photo/name). I've only got 5 of these so I have to use them wisely.

92004 No.3271

>ask a girl out
>"I'd like to get to know you first"
>have convo
>they never msg again
>don't wanna msg twice because that's beta

>"I'd rather get to know you first"

>say I'm not interested in pen pals
>they never msg again

REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
how the fuck am I supposed to get a date?!



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