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86a38 No.2345[Last 50 Posts]

How has your luck been with Feabie?

I like the overall concept of the site, but the community as a whole is a little toxic in my opinion. There are way too many "sex workers" and white knights on there.

I met a few nice women on there, even slept with a few (four) but I feel like I have to weed through so much bullshit and entitled "sex workers" just looking for money.

I wanted to get some opinion and experiences from you guys.

e39b1 No.2348

It's not as crappy as FantasyFeeder but there are many things about it that can be improved.
>I met a few nice women on there (…) but I feel like I have to weed through so much bullshit and entitled "sex workers" just looking for money.
The wonderful world of online dating in a nutshell.

10527 No.2350

There needs to be a totally separate site where any sort of financial exchange is against the rules. Maybe I should start one. There is no other way to redeem this community, imo - sex workers have ruined everything and have made it near impossible to discern who is genuine and who is in it for the money.

eb400 No.2351

Created an account there and I never really used it so far
There are nearly no people from my area and this "you really need to upload pics" stuff kinda pushed me away from it

Might log in again just to see what it's like now.

e31a1 No.2352

>>2345
I'm with someone now (not from the site) but when I had an active profile it worked pretty well for me. Between Feabie and Craigslist (seriously lol) I didn't have much trouble finding casual fun without having to pay for it.

All the howling and gnashing of teeth re: user base is a pretty easy fix, plus it's obviously going to be slanted towards women because they saw what happened to FF when it became a sausage fest with dick pics flying around too fast to count em which obviously made it preeetttty tough to keep women around for long. I usually roll my eyes at the whole "I have an iPhone camera and ate four cupcakes in my sweatpants on-screen for money, I'm a sex worker!" schtick too but I've had a lot of luck with women in my area(s) and would still 100% be on there if I didn't have a relationship atm.

Overall I think it's a step in the right direction, FF was such an unmitigated disaster near the end, at least Feabie has an active and decent sized female user base.

00ca5 No.2353

>>2345
The community and all the people who post regularly in the feed are super toxic, but if you are not a creep and lucky enough to have some people relatively nearby it works well enough, better then any other site Ive used at least. Have gotten a bunch of dates and even got laid a few times thanks to feabie.

00ca5 No.2354

>>2352
Honestly like 5+ years ago FF wasn't that bad, maybe it was all we had but I met one of my ex's through it.

1f01a No.2355

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>>2354
I honestly feel that FF is more genuine solely on the fact that it's sort of now devolved into an anonymous fetish board. No one is really concerned about meet ups as much as Feabie and just sort of go and indulge in their secret fetish. For the most part I find it very cpratical for what it is (if that made sense)

As for feabie I hate just about 80% of the people on there. Most of the women are only on it to leach off money from finically cucked men just so they can have extra booze money for college. And the chicks who are actually gaining are complete SJW cunts. There are a few women that still bring me back to the site like Glutton Queen (pic related) but I'm been learning to back away from it as much as I do with feabie. Profiles are just public text boxes to list off amazon wishlists and pay pal info.

I think making a fetish site resemble facebook as much as possible really brings out the cancerous crowd within the fetish. Kinda like DA with furries.

Also the front page feed is always packed full of the same repetitive shit "give me money, drama, bitch about something, trump sucks, bitch about something else more pointless"

i remember there was this big shit sturr about some of the former memebers of the site were going to go off and make their own feabie but with all these guidelines and "profile validation" strategies that were absolutely batshit insane. And it was going to be a couple's focuses site so like an anti dating site or something? Anyways it was really retarded and it never got off the groud and for MONTHS people would spam the feed with hashtags and shit

tl;dr
Feabie - 2/10
FantasyFeeder - 5/10

3ef9a No.2357

>>2355
I guess this says to me that we're looking for different stuff out of the sites, if I'm gonna be on one of these sites I'm trying to get laid. Feabie is miles ahead of FF for that.

I do agree that FF used to be better though. Idk I feel like your chances of finding a catfish to RP with on FF are way higher and sometimes that's all I'm looking for, but to go meet someone and actually do some food stuff, I'm all in on feabie, I met three girls off of FF and it went fine but it was like every third profile was fake or just disappeared or both.

3ef9a No.2358

>>2357

I'll also chime in on the whole giving money to the women thing: I don't do it often, the way you gotta play it is either you can watch them eat it or they record it and send it to you. If they're not down, that's cool I'm not gonna press the issue but that's the only way I'm sending anything. Of course, this is all sort of dependent on having at least a LITTLE bit of a prior relationship with the girl but seeing as a lot of people on this board seem to write them off personality wise (seems to revolve around distaste for social justice, I align with some of it, indifferent to the rest really), I get why this isn't more common. That's not really supposed to be a judgement, just an observation, if you guys really don't like interacting with that type of person who am I to say otherwise.

More to the point though, I'm an adult, I've got the money, 8.99 plus delivery gets me a custom amateur stuffing video and sometimes it's live? Yeah I can live with that, I'll just bring lunch to work tomorrow instead of eating out.

If you wanna call me "cucked" (fact: no one uses this word unironically) for dropping some coin on what I want to spend it on be my guest, I'm not terribly rich or anything, it's just not a lot of money to spend and this kind of stuff is why I prefer feabie to FF, it's MUCH easier to nail this sort of stuff down.

It ain't always possible for folks in this fetish to find someone to share it with in a low stakes, low judgement zone. I'm down with the site that makes it that much easier.

4c1d9 No.2360

I sort of like Feabie as a concept, but there isn’t much incentive for me personally (straight feedee woman, not a sex worker) to participate or come out of lurking

1. I don’t really care to "make friends in the feedism community", I have plenty of friends and I'm just not that interested in some guy from halfway across the globe who "just wants a chat" there's really nothing in it for me. It would be cool to be friends with a woman who “gets it”, but I don't really see that as a hole in my social net right now.

2. On the subject of "chatting", I've rarely ended (or had someone end) a conversation in which I didn't feel disgusted or used after. This happened a lot when I was younger on fantasy feeder or omegle and didn't understand that when guys were taking longer and longer to respond and then eventually disconnecting, they were just jerking off and then coming lmao. Now I usually just block/ignore any conversation that seems to be headed in that direction since a) I'm not a sex worker b) I don't need someone to spend $23 on my Amazon wishlist so I'll reply to them (I'll buy that stuff when I'm good and drunk thanks lol).

3. I’m lucky that I'm "attractive" to guys that aren't necessarily just into fat girls and I don’t need the feederism community to feel wanted. Even though I'm definitely fat at 5'6 and I usually weigh anywhere from 230-280lbs at any given time, I suppose my face and more “hourglassy" fat distribution give me more to work with than someone who might weigh the same as me but carry their weight in an area that may not be considered as appealing.

So with that I'm trying to say that I'm not starved for male attention. I try not to judge but I can usually tell when a girl is not at all used to the idea of being thought of as sexy/hot and it's clear they're finding a lot of new joy/validation through comments/likes/messages when they post a dirty mirror picture of their belly in the sink and their tank top pulled up under their boobs. I think I avoided a lot of that baggage since I’ve genuinely been into the idea of being a feedee since I was young, and I’ve always known at the back of my mind that someone out there found my fat ass sexy hahaha.

4. Then on the topic of actually meeting people, I would like to but whenever I try, I realize that my ideal partner would probably be a lurker (which is completely counterintuitive on my part). I also have little interest in talking to anyone that would probably be awful to hang out with in real life (people that post trollbait/seem unhappy depressed/are “famous” on feabie/use the word cuck/get into fights or drama etc etc.) I’m also not talking to anyone with a stupid name like “BellyLover123”.

If you already have all your mental “in real life” filters set up for a person you’d be interested in meeting (personal attraction, personality, level of education, nonsmoker, distance from you etc.) going on feabie can be depressing when you possibly find them and realize that they live far away.

My biggest qualifier in replying to someone is just asking myself if the person would still be normal/socially adjusted outside of feederism, and if I’d actually interact with them if I wasn’t just desperate for someone to stuff me full of cake — after a cold shower the answer is usually no sadly.

I know sometimes women complain about how many messages are in their inbox, but quantity isn’t quality. It reminds me of Silicon Valley when Jared paid for a bunch of people in India to use Pied Piper lol, like sure you have 1000 messages but does it really count if 990 of them are “hey sexy”/explicit pictures/in broken english/from someone 2X your age?

5. Add all this to the other miscellaneous bullshit women have to deal with when being online (dick pics, stalkers, once someone sent me a printed out photo of my feabie profile picture with cum all over it fml) it just turns out there’s just so much more for me to lose than gain (lol gain).

All this tldr stream of consciousness word vomit aside, I think everyone’s experience with a site that's both social and sexual in a kinky way like feabie really is up to the individual, what they’re trying to get out of it, their circumstances, and all the other things that you deal with on a dating site. I’m not really into anything else sexually but I can imagine that a site built like feabie that was for stuff like BDSM/furries/foot fetishists etc would probably end up with similar dynamics. I sometimes visit Grommr, and while it’s not a perfect contrast, they also seem to have issues with things like fakes, grey faces, trolls, people asking for money etc.

a7993 No.2362

>>2352
Ok but do you really want to date the sort of girl who posts revealing pics of herself to a fetish site?

>>2360
This. 100%. A nice self-respecting well-adjusted girl like yourself is exactly what I'm after, and yet for exactly these reasons you don't reveal yourself on FF or Feabie!

What about Tinder? Does this one work?

10527 No.2363

Female feedee here as well. I love being fat. I'm gaining for myself - not for anyone else. I've never understood why someone who is gaining for their own enjoyment would expect someone to pay for them to get fatter.

If I just started dating a guy, and he really liked seeing me wearing heels, I wouldn't say, “I’m not wearing heels anymore unless you pay me". lol The reason I wear heels is because I like wearing heels. Same goes for being fat.

I totally get a feeder wanting to buy food for his real life feedee, and helping her financially – but the scenario we see on every feedist related social media site is that girls are requesting money from hundreds of men simultaneously.

8e5f0 No.2364

>>2363

A lot of the fake "feedees" on Feabie don't seem to understand that for people who actually have the fetish, feedism isn't just "findom but with food instead of money." I get that findom is a real fetish that some guys genuinely get off to, but the idea of being an anonymous money slave has nothing in common with what turns me on as a feeder.

5943f No.2368

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>>2345
I met my girlfriend going on 3 years on Feabie and in like the last 3 months we both left because it just became a pity party and hate mob with no basis to any claims

At the start it was alright but it became way too cliquey and boring because you couldn't post anything without SOMEONE getting upset and whining about you

b4d8e No.2369

Feabie has definitely been a hit or miss with me. I'm interested in meeting friends in the community and being able to just talk regularly about feedism stuff, but I have to deal with a lot of idiots. A lot of girls on the site are nasty and bitter and treat feabie as though it's high school. White knights defend them and if you have any sort of opposing view you get shamed and harassed over it.
Unfortunately for me the local men are terrible. They just want to hookup or hang out "at home" aka they're closet FA's. or I just get completely ghosted.
I do post revealing pictures of myself because I love my body and I love others that can also appreciate it. I understand with that naturally I'll have to deal with fuckboys that constantly message me.
To be honest I've had a lot more luck making friends in the community through discord and Reddit than I ever have on feabie.
I'd rage feabie a 3/10. Too many immature cliques, thirsty fuckboys, and women that beg for money constantly.

3ef9a No.2370

>>2362
Depends. If we really clicked I don't think I'd care very much. But I never used it for "dating", I used it to hook up, I'll hook up with a girl who posts revealing pictures of herself to a fetish site 7 days a week and twice on Sundays.

934d6 No.2371

Maybe it’s because I’m a woman but I honestly don’t care about the sex workers or people asking for money at all. It’s definitely annoying when people post and talk about selling clips or their wish lists, but it’s something that literally has nothing to do with me so I just don’t give a shit, but that’s probably because I don’t have to browse through profiles of women so I’ve never had to filter through people in this particular way.

If I lived in a trailer in a nowhere town or had a dead end job and I was struggling supporting myself, and my choices for affection were billy joe the opioid addict, some guy who won't be seen with me in public, or some guy who lives across the country but comments “cute belly” and sends me Wendy’s gift cards - I would also probably choose to ask people for money online. I’m also mostly talking about people who aren’t bona fide sex workers like bigcutie models or something — just random girls in their bedroom with the samsung beauty filter at a 10, bad eyebrows, and poorly lit photographs lol

I guess I consider myself lucky that I’m in a position in life where
a) I’ve never needed $20 or a meal so badly that I was willing to rub my stomach over skype for it
b) the opportunity cost of posting my belly online in a sexual way would affect me more negatively than positively {I’m thinking of people who would suffer from career suicide if like a senior partner of their company came across these pictures} — so yeah let’s say I go back in time and I’m a 19 year old student and I magically make $5 000 in a month off of selling Clips 4 Sale, and premium snapchat etc. and I get a great new wardrobe out of it - but I have way more to lose in the long run when I'm 31 and it comes to potential opportunities I’ve lost in my career because I have revealing pictures of myself online.

irl I definitely have the expectation of my partner to spend money on me or treat me to things (like I would with them), but that has nothing to do with feedism. If I was with a feeder, “spoiling me” would definitely intersect with feedism — but just randomly asking random guys for money or food online doesn’t really appeal to me.

I would also like some sort of flirty feedism centered conversation, but posting “hey message me! :) ” is just an invitation for awful messages, and I don’t want to be that asshole girl who posts “hey I think I’m better than these other girls because I’ll talk to you about feedism for free and they just want a dominos sponsor”. If I did that,
1) my inbox would be flooded by thirsty guys
2) the wrath of all the sex workers and their fans on feabie will come down on me hahaha
3) that’s a really shitty thing to broadcast
4) any guy that would respond positively to something like that is not one that I’m interested in anyway tbh
So I end up posting my failed twitter drafts about the weather or mcdonalds hashbrowns that nobody (including myself lol) really cares about, and just usually don’t bother posting at all.

I also don’t interact with anyone that doesn’t appear to meet my standards. I think that’s why I’ve been lucky and not had to deal with people ghosting me or being disrespectful or anything. I also block or ignore anyone that posts, comments, or messages me something even slightly annoying. I also took down the 2 pictures I had that showed my face and body and substituted it with one awkward photo with my head cropped out (that I hate because I don’t like people with ugly pictures and now I have an ugly picture hahaha) and the traffic to my inbox has taken a noticeable drop.

The only reason I really am on feabie is to find a person that I would like to be with who is *also* into feedism. So I’m never going to compromise my normal standards for a person that I would want to be with, just for the sake of feedism. Fortunately I’ve met 5 really awesome people through feabie who were what I’m looking for as a whole on top of being into feedism (but that was 5 people over a year and a half and 3 cities and 3 countries), but I think it’d be a stretch to think that my experience necessarily parallels other girls, or that it could be comparable to a guys experience.

Ime most of the people that think that Feabie is a “toxic hellhole” are usually pretty unsavoury themselves, and are pretty easy to spot and avoid anyway.

From what I’ve seen, anyone that complains about people online and the stuff I’ve seen people get pissy about on feabie then storm off to complain about on reddit/this site almost always involve them posting something genuinely stupid or questionable and then having a fit when a bunch of people call them out on their stupid opinion. So sure the clique of 5 people who comment and call you out/trash talk you for being ‘sexist/racist/whatever’ are the worst, but so are you for slightly being a bigot and thinking anyone gives a shit about your thoughts on something touchy in the first place.
Arguing with them, and then posting another status later about getting “harassed by all the sjws and white knights” is stupid behaviour and I’ve never seen a 100% innocent or reasonable post brigaded by the soldiers of feabie, and OP coming out not looking like a defensive loser afterwards.

I understand that people on Feabie can appear to be sensitive or pedantic with a lot of things, but ignoring a reply or deleting a status all together is free — same with just not posting anything that could incite arguments or strong opinions in the first place (religion, politics whatever.
I posted once about how I was happy that it was an abnormally warm day, and someone commented something about climate change and then 2 other people started having a discussion/argument on it on in my comments then someone else asked me why I wasn’t replying… Yeah climate change is a huge issue and perhaps this winter has been unusually warm because of it, but that’s obviously not what I meant… I just deleted that post entirely instead of engaging with it since I literally had nothing to gain from it, it’s really that easy.

With all this I can’t say I find a lot of women bitter or anything, but a lot of people would rather correct someone and get into an argument vs. just blocking or scrolling past someone that annoys them. But I think this is true of the internet and any online community in general, and is not necessarily exclusive to feabie. I can also understand that some people are more invested in “the feedism community” than I am, and might feel more of a need to moderate other users and keep things flowing to the way they feel is appropriate.

I feel sort of gross typing all this out as it seems sort of self-indulgent and arrogant on my part but honestly all these thoughts have been stewing on my mind for ages.

tldr
My whole feabie experience can basically be boiled to poem Masks by Shel Silverstein:
“She had blue skin,
And so did he.
He kept it hid
And so did she.
They searched for blue,
Their whole life through,
Then passed right by-
And never knew.”

>>2364
I totally feel you on this. I don’t really know how to stand out as a more “sincere” feedee, without it looking like I'm shitting on other women or calling attention to myself, so I just quietly lurk lol. So while the idea of waking up and getting stuffed with a hundred cupcakes and a feeder to put them in my mouth is absolutely fantastic, there’s no joy in it for me if it’s because some guy through the internet that I only talk to through Skype sent them to my house.

>>2362
Tinder or any other dating medium are fine imo, but the only obstacle is that I would be nervous about breaching the topic of feederism with someone who might not have any idea what I’m talking about.
Outside of feedism I’m personally more reserved/innocent when it comes to sexual things in general, so bringing something up like this with a guy I met at a club, or at school, or on tinder (basically just not feabie lol) could get very awkward, to the point where I’m fine just ignoring it and leaving it out all together. I really would only bring it up with someone I was completely 10000% comfortable with (and that’s only happened once and he was fortunately kind of into it lol).
So I generally don't mind Tinder and I like it for more vanilla dating, but it’s not something that I think I could rely on for specifically finding a feeder, and while I'm not really looking for hookups I also don't take Tinder matches too seriously

92a9d No.2374

I met my bf on there and honestly just stay for the lulz at this point. It's not as fun as it was but I still have friends I like to talk to and sometimes there's drama interesting enough to catch my interest and give me a chuckle.

Honestly it's pretty easy to focus on what you're looking for and nothing else. There's plenty of women looking for hook ups or relationships. There will literally never be a feedist community completely free of people asking for money. It's a site based around a fetish that most ppl associate with sex so. Good luck with that one. Join a dating site or tinder if you want to steer mostly all the way clear of that.

As long as you're not a blank profile just saying 'hey' and treat the person you're talking to like a person then your chances of finding what you want are pretty good. Distance can always be a bitch but that's the internet.

3ef9a No.2375

>>2371
I agree with a lot of what you're saying. My post earlier where I took a jab at the whole "sex worker" thing was kind of a semantic one, for some reason that wording gives me douche chills. Like ok yes technically you got paid to eat 44 twinkies that one time, but to me they are to actual sex workers what mall cops are to officers on the police force.

10000% agree that if I were in college or something and could make some money that easily I'd be all over it

>most of the people that think that Feabie is a “toxic hellhole” are usually pretty unsavoury themselves


Really hit the nail on the head here lol, I knew I couldn't be the only one that was glad that most of these people had been driven off lol.

32e8e No.2376

I got super lucky and met someone on there. We've been dating for 8 months now. It's my first real relationship and it's amazing.

32f21 No.2378

>>2360

This right here, not a woman but I just want to meet someone who's cool with this and who I can click with for realsies. Generic dating sites sometimes work there's certainly a lot less of this kind of 'fetish4pay' business but most people aren't into this kinda stuff at all and I don't want to think I'm pushing it on someone who wasn't interested. I couldn't give less of a damn about the "community", I'm not ashamed to go out with a big girl in public or date one and I have but most of the people there just aren't the kind of crowd I'd normally associate with and bonding over a kink with people I'm not dating feels a bit off.

10527 No.2379

Has anyone here had experience with BBW dating sites? Seems it might be a better option for finding a lasting, long term relationship, since feedist sites are more sexually (and monetarily) oriented. My ideal partner would be a fat activist foodie, not sure if I'd be able to find someone like that on a non-feedist site or not.

42f73 No.2381

I haven't been on Feabie since early summer, but I was a member for roughly a year and a half. I stayed off the newsfeed and just talked to models and "internet famous fat girl" types in private chats. Had a couple flings but nothing long-term or romantic.

In my experiences, the inner circles of Feabie look a little tough to get into when you first sign up, but most of the women are actually extremely friendly and fun to talk to as long as you're, y'know, not a total douchebag or cheeto-dusted neckbeard nice guy type. Again, I didn't really participate in the newsfeed and I still made friends, some of them pretty high profile in the community. Overall my experiences were extremely positive.

The men are definitely 99% trash though. I had to set my newsfeed to just only show posts from women. You avoid almost all the drama that way.

1c492 No.2382

I've been in a relationship since before Feabie came out so I've never used it to date or hook up with anyone IRL, but I have an account there and log in occasionally just to see what's happening. I agree with the general consensus in this thread, seems to me like it's probably a decent way to meet people as long as you stay away from the newsfeed and don't mind having to filter out women who are just there for wishlists/camming and guys who are just there to add to their spank bank.

That said, I *do* think the newsfeed is incredibly toxic – even leaving aside politics, it seems like there's always some sort of Mean Girls clique drama going on with lots of subtweeting between rival gangs, from people who would probably be better off if they spent less time on the Internet and more time working on getting their real life shit together. Maybe they're all nicer in private, but idk, I can't imagine spending all day bathing in that much negativity.

1c492 No.2383

>>2379

For what it's worth, my best experiences meeting people for actual relationships have been through normie dating sites. Like >>2371 said, no luck finding one who is also into feederism, unfortunately. In some ways it's easier to look for someone I have a lot in common with who happens to be fat, than to look for fat people and hope one of them has enough in common with me to make a relationship work. OkCupid is particularly good because the survey system it uses to match people has a bunch of useful questions related to weight, including "would you consider dating a fat person?" where "yes, in fact I prefer fat people" is an option. Back when I was active there I used to get messages out of the blue from girls who saw that in our match list, lol.

2e85d No.2388

4 hookups on feabie, all of them ended poorly

00ca5 No.2392

>>2388
Yeah I dont live near a major city, hooked up with the one girl nearby, turned out she was in a sexless marriage and was cheating on her husband with me. She was a good lay, but things got too dramatic.

ae075 No.2393

i've attempted to find a few dates on feabie but all the men that i seem to click with live too far from me. locally it seems like there's no one. i ended up deleting my account anyway so eh

40b14 No.2397

>>2393
where you from?

40b14 No.2398

>>2388
>Ended poorly
so you fucked them and then something bad happened? Or the fucking itself was bad? Elaborate

ae075 No.2411

>>2397

small town in kentucky. i'm guessing a lot of the guys who are into fat women live in bigger cities

82f11 No.2413

>>2411
i don't think the proportion is any greater rural vs. urban. i think it's just a question of population density, and since cities have such high density it creates the appearance of what you're describing.

82f11 No.2414

>>2383
also, i can corroborate this. i'm a decent looking young guy and i set "no, in fact, i prefer overweight people" to the question asking if you would date an overweight person. i then proceeded to basically search out the girls who's profile pics suggested they were fat. i got almost every girl i looked at to at least check my page too and probably 1 out of 3 liked my profile.

if you're not good looking or if your profile looks weird i don't think what site you're on will ever make a difference though.

3be09 No.2428

I don't know what to make of my experience. It's been somewhere between good and bad.

Pretty decent guy. Just under 25, living in Baltimore. I honestly don't know where I stand on the attractive scale though

As far as talking to women, my first messages must be crap…it's been months since I last found a woman who didn't ghost me or quit Feabie as good things got along. I guess it's my lackluster strategy of kindly saying "hope your day is going well" because that's the best I can do. I try to go off and find something interesting in ladies' profiles, but a good majority of my finds don't even bother to put any depth to that. At the very least, most of the ones I do talk to still or currently are pretty good women. Some are feeders, some are not. Also, of those women I regularly keep up with, I have their Kik to hit them up as most of them don't use Feabie on a daily. The best woman I talk to lives further north (like in the New England area)…I hope to meet up with her in another city next year. The closest person I keep up with lives a mile outside of DC. I also hope to get to see her soon.

Speaking of meetups, I have met two people in my town. Both weren't feeders though. Talked for a month, then we took a walk in the park one fall Saturday last year. Been trying to meet up since, but she's either been too busy or too tired. Sucks because she has asked me before to hang at her place, but I still keep up with her too. And there's only one women I do feed on occasion, but also have good conversation with on everything else.

My second meet was this past March. Went out for dinner with a young non-feeder, and though slightly more awkward than my first, I wasn't shook by it. She and I agreed to meet again a few days later, but when I decided to text her the day before, she never got back to me. The next month of calls and texts, even for conversation became a slow ghosting process and well…that was history. Another lost opportunity

Since that March meet, I've been struggling. Haven't been close to setting up a first date with anyone in town and the the best girls I talk to are still more distant. I took off for a month after some crappy posts, but still no luck.

Either I don't stand out very well amongst the other guys or the girls who do like me are VERY VERY few out there. I don't send out dick pics or trash other women for not replying to me, but I know that's no guarantee to anything these days. I can't seem to send unique first messages to save my own life right now, the women within reach just don't seem to like me at first glance, and here I am trying to figure myself out.

I don't want this to come off as rant, but rather thought. Clearly, I have no mind control powers, so I can't force my way onto somebody. I don't expect to nail every woman's attention. I don't consider myself a closet FA (My last GF was fat; I enjoyed everything about her). But now, I just wonder if the problem is me, competition, or the field of women. Maybe I'm always reaching for the super attractive ones and I'm just another head fapping to their beauty behind a computer or phone. Maybe I just don't know my way around Feabie, let alone, dating sites/apps as a whole and I need a 101 class on it. I don't know…I'm done overthinking before I wear out anyone's attention span to read this.

Long story short: I chat with a few, I feed one every now and then, I met up with two and got nowhere since…is that bad or good?

1dac6 No.2432

Whats unique about YOU? Are you clever, or rich? Do you go to the gym, or do sports? Sell yourself!

3ef9a No.2434

>>2428
If you're chatting w/ a few and have actually met up with/fed you're probably doing better than ~70% of dudes on there.

I'm a lot like you (same area even, shoutout Baltimore), I get told I'm good looking by girls on there, I've had a lot more chats than actual fulfilling meetups (online dating in a nutshell I think), I usually open with a bad joke or something to get a laugh. If I see something we have in common I'll ask about it with a detail that I know isn't just going to be like "wow he googled that 5 seconds ago and is now trying to fake an interest to talk to me", it's not often that ONLY having the same fetish and a maybe-pretty face is going to get you anywhere. Maybe irl, but on the internet when all you've got is a few carefully selected pictures and your words, you've gotta find a way to stand out.

You've got a lot of words here typed out which makes me think you're probably thinking about this way too hard. Just relax, have a beer, and send a message or 10 to some people nearby that you think might be down to lick peanut butter off of your body one day because you are both just that into each other.

f91f7 No.2439

I bailed on FF when they decided to take features that had been on the site for almost 10 years and then suddenly lock them all behind paywalls. Feabie isn't much better

2e85d No.2451


246a6 No.2455

File: 1512833254885.jpg (67.78 KB, 600x631, 1508617011430.jpg)

>>2381

This was my exact same experience too. I'm decently attractive but not a model. I just messaged the girls normal things and didn't bring up their weight at all. I had a response rate of neat 50%

A lot of the girls thanked me for treating them like a person instead of a fetish, but still indulged in fat chat once I talked for a bit. Got some videos sent to me too.

No hookups though, I live in the midwest in the middle of nowhere :/

2e85d No.2458

play league of legends with them, make joke about feeding, ask them to come over. this shit isn't rocket science

a5a4b No.2539

>>2458
Agreed.

e31c0 No.2617

>>2455
I have even more trouble than usual I think, since I'm really shy and insecure about my interests and don't really feel like many people are gonna be interested in listening to me talk, but I try to be as nice and approachable as possible with everyone I reach out to.
But a lot of times at first I just would shoot out a message saying "Hey, I'd love to talk, I'm really shy, ask about something I like, ask them to tell them about themselves" yadda yadda. I'm kinda bad with starting conversation too. I've only hit it off with a handful of people and it really sucks. 2 of them lived near me, the other 5 or so lived up north.

I dunno, I'm also pretty reasonably attractive too, but maybe I'm just not as approachable? Maybe I come off as artsy or geeky or niche? I don't really know. I rack my brain about it often.

Anyway, point is, I have about the same luck doing the same thing you do and I'm even in the middle of super urban Houston in Texas. Most people just don't respond no matter how nice you are.

b5eea No.2627

>>2355
I just have to ask, who is this in the pic? Is she someone off feabie?

e0b2b No.2629

I would love to know how much attention women really get in online-dating. Do girls really get messages from men non-stop?

I put a picture of my avarage face, added info about myself and sent a few messages to pretty girls. Only one attentionhungry teen answered and then ghosted me.

How do I don't become a revolting creep or a thirsty fuckboy? How does one compete against thousands of other men?

10527 No.2630

>>2629
When I was active on Feabie and elsewhere I got hundreds of messages daily. It was pretty much impossible to answer them all. The irony is that the two guys I ended up chatting the most with were unattractive, super nerdy (and slightly autistic) types.

770c3 No.2631

>>2629
>How do I don't become a revolting creep or a thirsty fuckboy? How does one compete against thousands of other men?

you be a normal person? and at the very least, have photos of yourself and a profile filled out.

real messages i've gotten and did not respond to:
>that tinder boy is gonna,be the luckiest boy on earth when that period ends
>Perfectly curvy just like the roads of West Virginia
>Hey how are ya an yes iv got pics lol
>You look sOo hot babe
>Hi. Love your hair. Looks really long.
>Hi there beautiful
>Hi how are you
>Hi
>Hey
>You have pretty eyes and a warmth about you. I am a shy little boy seeking the friendship of a strong yet caring nurturing momma like you. Will you please message me.

messages i've responded to, even if the conversation eventually went nowhere:
>Your dreads are awesome ?
>How did you even cope meeting bob the drag queen?
>tryna get on your level with dreads, damn.
>Heartache is the worst. I'm sorry things didn't work out between you two.

i think you can see the difference.

80605 No.2632

>>2631
>>2630

I see. So in order to get a girl, I must not message her ever. Got it.

I already got pictures and a decent profile page. I can't be so ugly. I know that I'm usually competing with tens to thousands of other guys but please tell me for real what women want to hear from me?!

I have had multiple girlfriends, but I always have trouble getting fat girls or getting any contacts online.

a8b98 No.2633

>>2632
Can you truly not see the difference between those two groups of messages?

770c3 No.2634

>>2633
yeeeeah. i'm starting to see the issue.

c98df No.2635

>>2631
>>2632
>>2633

I dont see the problem with the long hair comment but other than that:

They're trying to
All the other top comments are either boring, very awkward, or a combination of both.
The bottom ones have at least some interest put into them, or consideration for the other person.
If you see someone on a dating site and message them, they already know you think they're attractive, sort of an unspoken understanding, much the same in real life, since that's 80% of the time how you get a first impression. As such, try to show people that, you too, are a person. Use her listed interests to start a conversation, tie in your (non fetish based) interests, people generally don't like talking to one dimensional people.

If nothing is really relatable, maybe ask her an interesting question (what would you do with a million dollars, anywhere you'd love to visit, if you could own any animal as a pet… etc. etc. etc.) think up your own because those are all pretty basic.

Try to do some kind of ice breaker, play a question game of some sort.

Show some genuine interest, even more important, show them that you're brain isn't 100% consumed by your desire to fuck their profile picture. Your goal when meeting someone new shouldn't be to get them wet. Instead, just get to know them.

80605 No.2636

Okay okay.
I'm just pissed off because life ain't easy. I wish I will get to experience my fantasies at least once in my life. Until then I got to make do with my boring, avarage sized girlfriends.

770c3 No.2638

>>2635
>I dont see the problem with the long hair comment

well, if you read it with the context of my photos, like… i have two that were specifically uploaded to show how long my hair is (which is extremely). so all that i could think to respond with was "uh, duh".

10527 No.2639

>>2632
I'd say don't give up hope and just be yourself. For me it was never about looks. I'm more into chatting with like minded people rather than hooking up with someone based on appearance. As I mentioned earlier, most of the guys I responded to were major geeks and not at all attractive physically. People think that the most sought after gainers only chat with the best looking guys but that's entirely untrue (at least in my case).

a77c8 No.2865

Just started using this, amazing people actually want to talk about fetishes and junk so easily!
What time does the day cycle for free user limits?

326be No.2880

this site isn't all that bad, but I agree with the OP. Sex workers are a protected class on there, lynch mobs for wrong think, mods that don't do anything when shit actually does go sideways (thus giving credence to the victimization of many of the overgrown children of feabie) and the drama is past cringy. I've met a few level headed people there, but they are all the types to not get very active with the community.

bcbc2 No.2881

One thing I definitely wonder about is how many high-profile men in the Feabie community also frequent bbwchan. I'm willing to bet it's a lot. Everybody loves free porn.

68c79 No.2939

Feabie and "high-profile" seem like a contradiction in terms.

39786 No.2962

>>2880

This. Guy said some stuffer31 models were lazy in regards to their content. A bunch of women come out to shit on him. Opinions are not welcome on Feabie unless it’s one of their own. That and I think the lazy content triggered a few since there’s a good amount of lazy content models on there.

68c79 No.2981

>>2962

No more lazy than others. The website is absolute shit, though. It's impossible to sort though them all.

Hard to tell whether a model you like had her content wiped, since you can't find them in either case. There's definitely a few missing but you can only see them on pornhub.. with their names removed, annoyingly.

326be No.3009

File: 1516930030797.jpg (1.89 KB, 125x70, 1490568533634s.jpg)

damn, idk if you all are following this #makefeabieasafeplaceforwomen stuff, but holy shit it's great!

if the mods would just actually regulate their own site, it wouldn't have feminist uprisings like this. the site will obviously never allow for calling out of other users. fucking everyone would be called out for saying something slightly against "the agenda" and be ousted for not having the correct opinions. completely avoidable if the mods actually took cases of legitimate harassment seriously

81976 No.3024

It's ok for wank material but other than that its gone to shit, there's a few genuinely nice people on there but the mods are awful. Overall there's too many creeps posting random shit thinking its Facebook and then there's over the top SJWs constantly preaching crap, which is fine usually as long as it isn't constant whining as it often unfortunately is.

6b583 No.3077

>Go to WoopPlus thinking I'll get nice dates and maybe a few meetups
>get nothing for about 2 months
>get Feabie
>Get both dates and meetups planned no sweat
Been a serious member for about 2 weeks. Day like 2 a girl hmu and we're meeting up later this week, and I've got another meetup planning in the works. With the sexy chats I've had and pic exchanges between people my dick's been bled dry every day. I constantly juggle between like 4 convos at once at all times, so I always have someone to talk to. This shit is amazing. I wish I found this like years ago.
Probably helps that people
>can message each other without having to approve of the other off the bat
and
>are much more liberal about adressing sexual needs/desires
I mean that's why we're looking for fat/fat admiring people, right? For desired sexual relationships, with or without romance behind it.
Well I suppose some people just come for the community and emotional support, which is fine too.

40b14 No.3101

>>3077
whereabouts are you from? You don't have to be specific lol

1c492 No.3117

>>3009

tl;dr of this? I deleted my account because I got sick of the nonstop drama but I always like to hear it secondhand

50170 No.3132

Watching the drama from afar, it's really dumbfounding to me how tone-deaf the admins are. It's like they're going out of their way to piss off the group of people who generate the most traffic for them.

1c492 No.3133

>>3132

I'm 100% certain that the majority of Feabie users are men trawling the picture feed for a wank and that (behind the scenes) this is what Feabie's business model is based on. The social features of the site are just bait to get women to contribute content. Unless every woman on the site goes on strike at once, which ain't gonna happen, the site owners have no incentive to change.

9881c No.3138

>>3133
I really hope stufferdb introduces new features to more directly compete with feabie, like profiles. At least they seem true to the userbase, unlike the out of touch and greedy feabie admins.

95908 No.3145

Its strange how much better the community is on Grommr (Men for Men gaining) than Feabie. I started on Feabie but now that one is just a ghost town because all the girls in my area are just fat people who want to be treated like 10/10s

6b583 No.3166

>>3101
East coast Va. Decent population, not bumfuck nowhere, but DC is still like 3 hours away.

f332e No.3230

>>3009
On one hand, the mods can't be assed to consistently enforce most of their rules, which is how shit like this usually starts.

On the other hand, the overwhelming majority of the most vocal supporters are the people who piss and moan about how awful men are 24/7, and want the site to become an ideological echochamber, and only give a fuck about women who agree with them. See also: Any woman who critiqued the tag early on. Basically, the tag has almost exclusively been perpetuated by the most toxic section of the female part of the community. Which is a damn shame, because again, the mods really need to enforce their own damn rules. Barely any rules need to even be added. At the very least, I hope they expand the "no misandry/homophobia/transphobia" rule to cover all sexes, sexual orientations, and gender identities. Lord knows the site needs it.

On the flipside, there are some pretty great women there. Actually hung out a few times with one, before she went dark for reasons unknown.

6b583 No.3268

I kind of wish men were allowed unlimited blocks like women are. I've had a few people piss me off, and I really don't want to see them in the newsfeed and forget who they are (or mistake them for someone else if they do a new photo/name). I've only got 5 of these so I have to use them wisely.

92004 No.3271

>ask a girl out
>"I'd like to get to know you first"
>have convo
>they never msg again
>don't wanna msg twice because that's beta

>"I'd rather get to know you first"

>say I'm not interested in pen pals
>they never msg again

REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
how the fuck am I supposed to get a date?!

3ef9a No.3277

>>3271
if they never message you again they're probably not interested, but there's nothing wrong with tossing just a quick "what's up" message if it's been a long time. If they don't respond you can confidently move on. Sometimes people really do just need a nudge. If you really care about finding a date that seems like a pretty insignificant bullet to bite.

72eae No.3283

>>3271

I don't do much online dating anymore but I will give you a tip as I used to have a shit load of success. Ask quite a bit of open ended questions so the chicks can talk, be funny and be confident. Remember, the chicks kind of just like talking about themselves and like guys who listen and are confident. They really don't give too much of a shit about you in the initial conversation outside of basic stuff. Works well at bars too

1c492 No.3285

>>3283

>Ask quite a bit of open ended questions so the chicks can talk


Solid gold advice here. (This is good "making friends with new people" advice in general, really.)

Flipside of this is when it comes to moving to the next stage you should be clear and direct so you don't sound like a wuss:

>Hey, you know, I enjoy messaging with you, maybe we could talk on Skype some time?

vs.
>I enjoy messaging with you, let's talk on Skype. Are you free Wednesday night?

abb28 No.3286

I'm loving the feabie drama today tbh. Raven sucks.

f332e No.3289

>>3286
I stopped following her a while ago because of all of her drama, but as far as I can tell, she didn't really do anything wrong.

4283e No.3292

>>3286

Keep your drama on feabie. No one cares who hurt your feelings.

9ce6e No.3295

I've managed to make a couple of friends out of thirst messaging feedees. Otherwise my experience is pretty much the same, barring the fact that being a pansexual male I get hit on by older BHMs constantly which is incredibly uncomfortable.

f332e No.3296

>>3295
I'm guessing you want to be hit on by guys your age or something? BHM was not my ideal build on guys, but that's just me.

f20f5 No.3312

File: 1519950205677.jpg (173.49 KB, 2000x1922, 383917.jpg)

>#allmenaretrash is trending

1c492 No.3313

File: 1519952198504.jpg (410.84 KB, 480x680, mephisto.jpg)

>>3312

It's funny because it's so clearly a defensive mechanism. Yes, sweetie, the reason you only get attention from illiterate horndogs is that all men are scum. It has nothing to do with your own behavior or the fact that you've got more obvious baggage than a Delta terminal on Christmas Eve. Actual worthwhile men who want a relationship never DM you because they're just too intimidated by your greatness.

The thing on Feabie that makes me genuinely sad is watching new members get sucked into the "crabs in a bucket" circlejerk. Some decent, innocent girl who's still excited about the idea that there are men who find her cute gets a little too enthusiastic and ends up dealing with aggressively creepy DMs or maybe has an IRL hookup that doesn't work out. But instead of reasonable common sense advice and support –

>that sucks, but we're here for you, don't let it get you down. just be careful, there are some shitty people out there.


– she gets this:

>REEEEEEEEEE ALL MEN ARE GARBAGE, this is how all men are, you will never do any better than this, join us in our pit of misery

>btw the fact that we behave like this has nothing to do with the fact that we're all in our 30s and still single

f18af No.3314

>>3313
It doesn't help that the people who perpetuate this garbage spend all day on the news feed protecting their little shit corner of the internet(Because they're all "sex workers", and nobody respectable will date them.). It really is a damn shame though, but I suppose it does kind of filter these women out by default. Do you really want to date somebody so easily swayed by 30+ year old single women complaining about men every day on a fetish website?

I've had some success with Feabie, but it really is pretty much a cesspool. My opinion, if you've got the option, and aren't a complete autist and aren't terribly unattractive, just go to a bbw bash. It's the complete opposite of the online scene imo, as it's stupid easy to hookup there.

6e934 No.3315

>>3314
I'll politely ask you not to insult autistic people with that comment, sir. You had me until you freakin' slurred people like myself. Don't fuckin' do that.

f18af No.3317

>>3315

Are you sure you're not trying to post to Feabie right now? You know you're on a *chan, right? Think long and hard about what you just asked for.

ffd09 No.3318

Oh cmon asking people not to insult you is fine. You just can't expect that they'll always listen to you

1c492 No.3325

File: 1520034006572.png (96.49 KB, 680x681, crazybait.png)


1c492 No.3326

Related question, something I'm genuinely curious about as a guy but would never dare ask in public – what do the women of Feabie who aren't part of the newsfeed drama circlejerk think of the phenomenon of self-identified "lesbian trans women" sliding into "girl talk" discussions?

>Ugh, I totally agree, ~fellow girls~, men are ~trash~, tee-hee! Us ~fierce fat babes~ need to stick together! By the way, don't forget that I'm totes ~queer~ and a lesbian, so don't any ~boys~ think they can get with me!

>obvious implied message: women pls respond im so lonely and horny

If someone is legitimately trans, that's fine, but as a guy I can recognize thirstiness for what it is and I have to wonder whether ordinary women find this behavior obnoxious/creepy. Obviously they can't say this out loud because the usual suspects will tear them apart for being a LITERAL TRUMP HITLER NAZI TRANSPHOBE BIGOT.

ffd09 No.3327

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I mean there as these radical feminists out there called TERFS that really don't like transgendered people

But I'm sure it's probably situational like most things in life, maybe comes down to perceived social capital

Also it seems like it's your choice whether you say it in public or not, getting yelled at by feminists. Like it's probably better to get yelled at and come to some understanding rather than let somebody like jordan peterson represent you out of fear

cee86 No.3332

>>2345
>makes a feabie account
>2 years of trying to reach out
>2 years of "dont talk to me if you dont have money"
>2 years of newsfeed drama
>2 years of disappointment
>met a girl on dA of all places
>relationship achieved
>still get messages on feabie asking if I wanna be a sugardaddy

Errors have been made.

1c492 No.3340

>>3327

You misunderstand – while I have my own opinion about the civil war between TERFs and trans activists (it's that the truth is somewhere in the middle), I'm not especially interested in discussing it with Feabie. Why should they care about the political opinions of a grayface account who's just there to whack it?

My point is that I'm curious to hear the opinions of women who aren't politically partisan, because my outsider's impression is that there's definitely an undercurrent of good old fashioned thirstiness in the behavior of at least some people who identify as trans lesbians. And those women are no doubt aware that they'd get torn apart if they expressed an opinion similar to mine.

(also somebody pls remind me how to spoiler on this chan, i know it involves apostrophes somehow)

6522f No.3341

>>3326
Like, yeah, if the mere expression of thirstiness from a trans person is immediately creepy, it is pretty transphobic to think that. Girls get thirty, even if they have a dick.

4c358 No.3372

I used Feabie before, haven't had a profile in two years. Any Scandinavian girls there (BBWs)?

f332e No.3386

>>3313
I don't even bother to communication with the "All men are garbage" crowd because they simply aren't worth my time. Suppose it doesn't help their perception when it seems that the only men that give them attention are the ones that are actually shitheads who want an easy wank or ones that will kiss the ground they walk on, and will gladly have trash thrown on them by the women in question.

>btw the fact that we behave like this has nothing to do with the fact that we're all in our 30s and still single

There does seem to be a ridiculous correlation between single women around that age group and rabid man-hating. At least it seems to get better once they approach 40.

1c492 No.3392

>>3386

>Suppose it doesn't help their perception when it seems that the only men that give them attention are the ones that are actually shitheads who want an easy wank or ones that will kiss the ground they walk on, and will gladly have trash thrown on them by the women in question.


Yeah, it's a self-reinforcing negative feedback loop. To console herself for the fact that she only gets attention from low-quality men, she circlejerks with her friends (who are in the same situation) about how all men are trash and she doesn't really want a boyfriend/husband anyway. But because no sane man with options wants to date the kind of woman who's constantly ranting about how all men are trash, she only gets attention from low quality men. To console herself for the fact that she only gets attention from low quality men, she circlejerks with her friends… GOTO 10, repeat ad nauseam.

It's the same psychological dynamic as when the outcast kid in high school talks about how he didn't want to hang out with the popular kids anyway because they're all stupid conformist jerks.

>At least it seems to get better once they approach 40.


I hope this will turn out to be true but I think it might be a generational thing. The girls who are currently in their late 20s / early 30s are the first generation to have grown up with ubiquitous social media.

1c492 No.3393

>>3314
>Do you really want to date somebody so easily swayed by 30+ year old single women complaining about men every day on a fetish website?

Thing is, I totally agree with the reasonable, moderate-feminist position that fat women (especially SSBBWs) face unique struggles in life and should have a space for solidarity and support. The problem is that in practice these spaces tend to be taken over by the nutty man-hater element because they're the ones who are least likely to have a life outside the internet. (It's pretty much the Horseshoe Theory equal-and-opposite version of how conservative-leaning political sites will tend to be taken over by hardcore alt-right/WNs because they're the ones who are most invested in spending all day online to spread their ideology.)

I'm happily paired off in an LTR so this stuff doesn't affect me directly, but I'm interested/appalled by the psychological dynamics of it. As an oldfag, I watched this exact same thing happen to Dimensions Forums 10+ years ago, lol.

0bc23 No.3395

>>3392
>It's the same psychological dynamic as when the outcast kid in high school talks about how he didn't want to hang out with the popular kids anyway because they're all stupid conformist jerks.

This might seem completely random but I've noticed two types of people in this crowd. The first is the person who's more of an outcast because they have odd interests. People who are odd and stay in alternative circles because that's what they like. The second one is the outcast because they society deems them weird. The former aren't really looking for mainstream social acceptance whereas the latter goes on and on about it.

There seems to be a number of people in the scene who are desperate for society to like them and accept them. It just seems kinda weird and pathetic to me tbh.

f332e No.3396

>>3392
>I hope this will turn out to be true but I think it might be a generational thing. The girls who are currently in their late 20s / early 30s are the first generation to have grown up with ubiquitous social media.

Yeah, I'm concerned about this as well. But it seems like the women that are under 25 are more likely to be okay, despite also growing up in the Internet age. As to why this is, I'm not 100% sure.

7e224 No.3499

Same guy from >>2428 here with an update. A month away from all the noise helped me fall back and not drive myself crazy over my single life. Things are heating up since I returned…

Girl no. 1: Lives near DC (different from the last post); talking for 2 weeks; we had a good date night recently and plan to go out again soon

Girl no .2: Lives out west; talking for ~1 year; she's openly discussed her desires to date me and I've become her closest and only person worth talking to

Girl no. 3: Remember that girl who lives out in one of the NE states? Things are coming along, but we are trying for TWO dates this year. Thank God for a girl who likes travel and baseball

None of them are sex workers, and only one is a feeder. It's almost always better to avoid them because as everyone else says, they aren't cluttered by the frustration of dick pics and bombarded inboxes or so caught up in promoting themselves for attention and money. Hell, even the few I have tried to message haven't replied, so I'm guessing it's hard to get through to them anyways IMO.

f332e No.3500

>>3499
>Hell, even the few I have tried to message haven't replied, so I'm guessing it's hard to get through to them anyways IMO.

This has been my own experience, presuming you're talking about sex workers here and I'm not just reading this post terribly wrong. Usually, they'll barely converse at best. Seem to be in it more for personal gain than actual meaningful friendships, which is understandable, but still pretty disappointing, particularly if they seem to be pretty cool as a person on the surface.

7e224 No.3612

>>3500

You hit it on the nail. The one sex worker I hit up was giving me chances, but we never clicked. It was more on me though because I struggled to establish conversation with her and I didn't want to dive into fetish talk and turn her away. I'm nothing more than just another nice guy it didn't work out with, but hey…I had to suck it up.

Oh, and meant to say of the girls I'm talking to, only one of them was a feedee, not a feeder. Just wanted to fix that typo on my end.

6b583 No.3728

File: 1522602656658.png (20.16 KB, 566x122, ClipboardImage.png)

What really pisses me off is if this were a guy saying this, everyone would ostracize him. Men aren't allowed to be openly sexual yet I see many women basking in their ability to speak as perversely as possible, and encouraged to do so simply because (A. willing to bet if anyone dare speak out against them, it would not end well and (B. admirer enablers who are just as bad if not the same as beta orbiters.

1c492 No.3730

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>>3728

Even worse, I'd bet cash money that the poster in your pic is a basically hetero girl who identifies as "queer" for hipster cred and posts "you go girl" sexytalk to other women, but whose actual same-sex experiences are limited to kissing other girls for attention at parties and maybe that one time she and a friend were both drunk and awkwardly tried fingering each other. What she really wants is a strong, attractive man who won't put up with her bullshit, but that's not on offer, so…

Making a snap judgment about her personality based purely on her dangerhair, obviously. But c'mon, y'all know I ain't wrong.

cacaa No.3731

>>3728
I think there's a certain sort of in-crowd of feabie dudes who would get away with a post like this. Just not the neckbeards or socially inept old men.

bec27 No.3732

>>3728

That is clearly a joke. That user is straight and often makes comments defending men/talks about preferring men even as friends. Take the stick out of your ass

e4757 No.3733

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These banning posts are always shitmagnets to those insufferable cunts who troll the newsfeed, and seeing them throw tantrums is quite enjoyable to watch. They do this shit EVERY TIME. And it's always the same… something about doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results…

f332e No.3766

>>3728
I've seen a fair bit of her. She's a drama llama, but not the same kind as most of the girls on Feabie. I'd wager >>3732 is correct, although you're not necessarily wrong about men in this case.

>>3733
I really wish people like this would finally fuck off from the site, it would make Global at least readable. Seriously, it's the same 25 or so people that start all of the bullshit that goes on.

22f33 No.3844

Just got a temporary ban for a post getting flagged as "misogynistic".
Asked for an explanation from the mods and all I got in response was "bec muh soggyknees" without any actually reasoning.
I see misandry laden posts all time one there but males are literally inanimate objects so the mods obviously can't do anything about it. Misandry is not listed as one of their actionable offenses but able-ism is? Discrimination baked right into the fucking cake. Even the blasted mods running the site are ideological nut cases. I have no problem with some washed up cunt posting about cutting dicks off or whatever, but in turn you better not freak out when I post a thesis on patriarchy theory being thoroughly debunked.

bcf3c No.3845

1) Good god, please post your fantasy thesis

2) You should see the ducking shitty shit that men post. Are there overreactions along the way? Maybe. Doesn’t mean the main issue doesn’t exist

64352 No.3848

>>3844

>attempting to debate feminists with evidence and logic


yep, there's your problem right there

f332e No.3850

>>3844
Back when they were taking site suggestions due to the MFSFW shitshow, I suggested they expand on their discrimination to cover shit like misandry. Clearly, my suggestion fell on deaf ears. Toxicity towards certain groups is still A-okay.

Why the admins constantly kowtow to the people who will just keep complaining until the end of time is beyond me.

f18af No.3854

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>>3766
Sadly, they won't ever. They get off too much from all the betamale attention. Too many people like >>3844 is talking about who spend literally ALL their time on the website. Seriously, you weren't kidding when you said it's the same 25 or so people.

>>3845
The same people posting the same NOBODY IS OBLIGATED TO RESPOND/RESPEKTWOMYN/SOMEONEPOSTEDADICKPIC O M G/MAKEFEEBEESAFEFORWOMYN/other nonstop soapboxing posts FAR outweight the occasional anti hivemind post that you'll obviously hear about because the next few hours will be all about said post and how horrible the user is and how they need to be banned immediately.
Do you really not see how this is way more obnoxious?

I honestly don't know why I attempted to type that out, should have listened to >>3848 .

3be16 No.3859

>misandry

lol

22f33 No.3870

>>3845
>Fantasy thesis.
You mean almost every single contention made by modern feminism?

Go pick up the book by Steven Goldberg:
Fads and Fallacies in the Social Sciences.

>But teh men doo eet more.

There is definitely a surplus of idiot horn dogs on there. That’s why women have 1000 blocks and men have 10.

f332e No.3879

>>3854
>Sadly, they won't ever. They get off too much from all the betamale attention.
Those guys frustrate me every bit as much. They really need to grow spines.

>The same people posting the same NOBODY IS OBLIGATED TO RESPOND/RESPEKTWOMYN/SOMEONEPOSTEDADICKPIC O M G/MAKEFEEBEESAFEFORWOMYN/other nonstop soapboxing posts FAR outweight the occasional anti hivemind post that you'll obviously hear about because the next few hours will be all about said post and how horrible the user is and how they need to be banned immediately.

Do you really not see how this is way more obnoxious?
This is also correct. Even something like someone posting about weight loss will cause literal hours of the same handful of people making post after post after post pissing and moaning about it.

67e0f No.3906

The amount of beta orbiters on the site transcends embarrassment and even despondence, and rebounds into disbelief.

Horny virgins who will tolerate ANYTHING some chubby thot says and white knight her to death along with 200 other soyboys just for the miniscule chance of getting some chat back in the vain hope you can cum to her over some small gift.

It's a good warning for me to sober myself.

67e0f No.3907

>>3332
>deviantart

let me guess- a girl who draws fat anime girls

ff4eb No.3930

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>>3907
Nice try, but no. She's more into photography.

f18af No.4085

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Oh look, another person broke the rules and got banned and people are upset! Who would have guessed.

How delusional are these people?

f332e No.4086

>>4085
>It's another "Futatrooper acts like she's above site rules" episode
>It's another "People defend someone who clearly broke the site rules because they're part of the in crowd" episode
>It's another "Site amends rules to appease said group but still get bitched out" episode

Time to unfollow more people.

9801c No.4089

big surprise, most men are trash and feabie admins are idiots

f332e No.4090

>>4089
>feabie admins are idiots

Well, you're not wrong. Just for completely different reasons than you think.

bec27 No.4091

>>4086


Nah I knew what I posted was against the rules I just didn’t care because I think the name and shame rule is stupid and harmful. I’ve never encountered such a rule in any other social media site/forum I’ve posted on so yeah it’s fucking stupid.

On the bright side though, it led to the guy who date raped me finally getting permabanned so I’m happy

f332e No.4092

>>4091
>Nah I knew what I posted was against the rules
Fair enough. I have a tendency to assume at this point, given the nature of the site.

>I think the name and shame rule is stupid and harmful.

Going to have to agree to disagree here. Speaking of, I'm surprised that the existence of this rule has yet to cause a site exodus.

bec27 No.4093

>>4092

I’m sorry but I fail to see how banning screenshots and silencing people from sharing their experiences is a good rule. This rule doesn’t exist on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram or any other social media site. And if you report a user on OKC, POF, Tinder, Bumble etc, they take care of the issue immediately. Unlike the Feabie admin team who requires a crazy amount of evidence, picks and chooses what evidence is acceptable and/or just doesn’t respond at all. Feabie doesn’t deserve its own special set of rules meant to protect liars, creeps and abusers

f18af No.4094

>>4086
I often consider buying Feabie XL for the unlimited blocks, and honestly I feel inspired to after Feabie banned a bunch of the 'in crowd' yesterday. But then I would miss their public tantrums every day…so honestly I'm kind of torn.

>>4089
Go back to hashtagging, dear. This is where were having actual discussion and not spewing lowest common denominator rhetoric.

>>4093
>>4091
The rules don't exist on those websites since they don't work the same way as feabie at all. You don't get access to everyone's(and I mean EVERYONE'S) posts just by signing up to Facebook/twitter/and the like. You have to self filter and add people yourself. So when given a platform where you can immediately broadcast to every person on it, it makes sense to ban these witch hunt type behaviors. Do you remember the reddit boston bomber witch hunt? That's why it gets banned. I'm sorry that you god raped but from the length of that blog you posted it seems like you have a terrible filter for people anyway.(And from the pettiness of that blog I'm going to guess it wasn't just the mans fault either.)

Stop trying to make the website protect you, and look out for yourself. This is the internet, nobody owes you anything.

bec27 No.4095

>>4094

Uh yeah I never asked anyone to protect me, I simply want the ability to share my experiences with others. And if Feabie is so concerned with that, they should give people the right to make their profiles private.

As for my “filter” and it being my “fault”, you can fuck right off. The person in question is someone I shared multiple mutual friends with outside of the fat community and the person admitted themselves that what they did was wrong. It’s amazing how some of you go out of your way to defend people who don’t even defend their own actions. You’re a real piece of work

f18af No.4096

>>4095
I honestly agree with the private profile feature, but it probably will get paywalled or some stupid shit.

Did I say you getting raped was OK? No. If that's true it's pretty horrible that happened to you. I was merely referencing the fact that you put someone raping you on the same list as people who flaked on you. And like, a lot of dudes too. Seems like a pretty obvious red flag to me. But then again the whole making that subreddit for complaining about dudes in the community was reason enough to avoid you anyway.

352ca No.4097

>>4096

OR maybe it’s just that it’s extemely common for men on Feabie to lie and mislead women. My experiences are extremely common. Speak to
Any woman on Feabie and they will give you a list of their own. Just because I’m not afraid to be vocal doesn’t mean this all just because of my shitty personality.

And anyway that list was all my personal experiences. Obviously flaking isn’t the same as rape. But people deserve to know who they’re talking to. From my subreddit I learned that there are certain men who have done it to multiple women. Some women lost hundreds of dollars in non refundable plane tickets etc because certain notorious men canceled and flakes on them last minute. No it’s not rape but it’s shitty as hell and if it’s happening consistently people deserve to know

f18af No.4098

>>4097
Um, no shit? Flaking is incredibly common in online dating in general lol, and that's by no means gender exclusive either. Even after having met in person, you can be flaked on. This really isn't that hard to grasp but for some reason you feabie girls think it only happens to poor lil' ol' you.

And if you're making plane arrangements with what amounts to be complete strangers whom you've never met with IRL then you've got to accept the fact that might happen lol. It's the risk you take when you do the long distance thing, which is why I personally think it's retarded as hell.

Stop being so trusting then? Stop buying plane tickets to go see strangers? Honestly I don't even feel bad when I see the but teh men leid to me!!! posts because honestly you've got to look out for yourself, and if something seems fishy, it probably is and you should avoid it. I've been lied to a ton from women on the internet which is why I learned it all the hard way so now I approach online dating with a ton of skepticism. And guess what? I haven't had a problem in years.

And you're more then welcome to have your private subreddit where you bitch about getting flaked on just like we're free to have anonymous discussions like these, but the reason you'll never get witch hunting posts allowed is for the reasons I stated above. It's like you've never heard of the Salem Witch Trials.

629ca No.4100

Although its one of the only areas for this community I find it quite toxic most of the time and better in small doses. Some people on there are way too touchy, like you look at their profile once or say something they disagree with and they message you to ask you why you looked at them and then get all shitty.
Saying that there are some very nice people on there like any other site, but most men likely use it as a fap bank and thats why the attitude with some people on there.

352ca No.4101

>>4098

LMAO are you seriously comparing this to the Salem Witch Truals? Call me when any of these guys face persecution, death or
Literally any consequences whatsoever outside ofmild embarrassment on the internet. And I literally posted about people who did things like create entire false indentities to cheat on their wife and fuck fat women on the side but I see your strong ethics only apply to shitty dudes being called out on not their actions themselves lmao
C

f18af No.4102

>>4101
I feel like you're either being purposely dense, or are just not that bright. But if you don't see the obvious mob mentality of the news feed then there really isn't much hope for you to understand why they won't allow what you want.

And once again, sounds like you have a terrible people filter. I'm not defending them in the slightest, just trying to get you to see what you could do differenly. Stop blaming everyone else for your shitty encounters in online dating and start seeing what you can do differently. Maybe stop keeping lists of guys for starters! Generally anyone with some self respect will see that as a giant red flag. Nobody wants a drama llama.

352ca No.4103

>>4102

My filters just fine and most of your assumptions are way off base. The entire list of “guys with girlfriends” are guys that my friends had sex with, not me, and afterwards I did digging and found out they had girlfriends. I’ve kept my distance from plenty of fishy guys but unfortunately they can be super persistent and manipulative and I think people should be informed. Even the guy who harassed me and showed up at my house was a guy I met up with once, didn’t like, rejected and said I didn’t want to see again because something was off. So yeah, I’m A OK when it comes to protecting myself, but I still think the rules are stupid as fuck and should be changed

f18af No.4104

>>4103
>I'm going to once again ignore your points about how mob mentality is a huge problem on Feabie and is precisely why the admins don't allow name and shame posts and repeat myself about how it's always the guys fault and Feabie needs to change their rules.

I think I've done all I can. They're just trying to cover their asses, that's why they don't care about places like this or your subreddit.

352ca No.4105

>>4104


Yeah I’m ignoring it because I disagree. I don’t think there’s a “mob mentality” problem. And yes, they do care about Reddit and other sites. I can’t make my subreddit public or link it on the newsfeed becaus eit qualifies as “naming and shaming”. Other people have been warned and banned in the past for creating Feabie tumblrs or linking to them as well.

2983d No.4106

>>4097
>>Obviously flaking isn’t the same as rape

Then why water down your message with that bullshit? I fully agree with you that Feabie's admins are moronic and their rules against name and shame are stupid as hell. But you seriously did yourself a disservice in lumping flakers in with your rapist. I like you. I agree with you. This was still a bad way to go about it. But I feel this is something we'll never see eye-to-eye on so whatever.

f18af No.4107

>>4105
So you're saying every time someone mentions weightloss and the next 5 hours are all about how Feabie needs to ban weight loss talk and the user is a terrible person for mentioning it and needs to be banned? Does this not count as mob mentality witch hunting? (I'm not going to get into an argument about whether or not this should be OK so don't even try to misconstrue my point.) And that's with a fucking weight loss post. You know how much of a shitstorm your post caused. How many morons were spewing hashtags about people getting banned for also reposting it? This happens anytime there's any so called "drama" and every idiot's throwing in their $0.02.

If you don't see how this is a problem if you run a for profit company that profits on people using their website and keeping it private then I don't know what to tell you. Feel free to make your own website? But that was tried and didn't seem to workout…

fbc09 No.4108

Rules that allow or promote "name and shame" policies are antithetical to what we have established as a system of justice in many nations. You must realize that many people adhere to the concept of "innocent until proven guilty" and to convict an individual based on zero or unsubstantiated evidence is an affront to what the believe as justice. Furthermore, it establishes the precedent that we must consider law and justice to be discontinuous as we apply a "guilty until proven innocent" mindset in some cases (which we know to be the hallmark of many anti-democratic processes and societies).

So, rather than arguing for the sake of arguing, we could, perhaps, attempt to find a reasonable solution to an objective problem; there are a lot of creepy guys on feabie and probably a number of rapists as well. So, ho do we, while taking into consideration the creatures that lurk in the shadows, make feabie safer while adhering to some semblance of justice and law? The obvious answer is to establish a motivated team of individuals who are interested in reviewing every single case filed and to have a community that immediately reports any wrong doing to that said team and, if the situation is grave enough, the local authorities. If the site in question does not allow you to do that and has rules that prohibit you from pursuing justice, then you must either leave the site or prove that they are protecting rapists as you so claim. So, the last question is, are you willing to set aside the monetary gains and comfort of having already established yourself for the sake of protecting women and making the community better?

I presume that you and the rest of the community, will simply forget about this within the coming weeks (as all Americans do) and life will continue on as normal until the next occurrence where this vicious circle will repeat itself.

One cannot say that "there is no other place" because, with the millions of beta orbiters on feabie, we can assume that at least one knows how to code

352ca No.4109

>>4106


Who the hell cares? I listed everyone I knew was a liar or who I had a bad experience with. That includes bad experiences of ALL types and I didn’t say “all of these are just as bad as rap. It’s odd how some people are way more concerned about how I fucking listed things vs the things I actually said. Because the order in which I listed them totally invalidates what I have to say lmao

352ca No.4110

>>4108


Innocent until proven guilty only applies to the court of law. Not to the court of public opinion, not to private entities and their own policies and notnot to individuals expressing their personal experiences.

Hell, it doesn’t even apply to civil cases because you can be found not guilty of a crime but still be found responsible in a civil case. I’m not sure why people think a fat fetish app is somehow equivalent to the criminal justice system. If anything, with the new anti sex trafficking laws, third party sites are legally liable for any criminal sexual activity facilitated by their site so you’d think Feabie would be a lot more proactive in banning potential predators

6ddfc No.4111

>>4095
>I wuz totes raped guys!
>That means I can do whatever I please and be free of consequences cause don't you guys know WOMEN are sometimes fucked over for being total morons?

Why do you guys even bother with these dumb bitches?

0bc23 No.4112

The question here is how to go about it, with an IRL community I would think this would be easier than with an Internet site. There's a complaint that someone is being abusive IRL go to the police about it. If they're proven guilty then you can pretty much exile them for said behaviour but if you can't then there's not much you can really do about it. If they haven't broken community rules and there's no proof then no action taken.

I can see why people like name and shame. There are people who are assholes, creepy, and abusive and they'd like to name them so other people can avoid them but one of the issues is this can easily devolve into witch hunting/groupthink. Person has a political incorrect opinion? Name and shame. People get into a fight? Name and shame. People are abusive? Same thing. It can easily degenerate into being on the wrong side of someone in the right clique and them being banned/becoming persona non grata for it.

f18af No.4113

>>4110
>not to private entities and their own policies

And there lies your answer to why this probably won't be solved by getting what you want no matter how many hashtags you posted. This would affect their profit margin if they allowed this behavior. Because let's face it, you know it's the men keeping the website afloat with XL subscriptions. Men getting harassed/potentially doxxed for mere accusations on the news feed means they would cancel. Like I said before, either make your own website, or quit your bitching. Feabie is honestly a dumpster fire but still miles better then alternatives such as FF and seeing people like you bitch and moan about things that can't really be solved in a reasonable manner really confuses me.

fbc09 No.4114

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>>4110
The court of law must reign supreme in contrast with every other aspect of society if we are to strive for justice. To disregard justice and law and promote the betterment of trivialities such as the court of public opinion, private entities, and the individual is to allow corruption to spread and your own prejudices to influence and hinder your rational faculty.

>Innocent until proven guilty only applies to the court of law. Not to the court of public opinion, not to private entities and their own policies and notnot to individuals expressing their personal experiences.


Do you consider the court of public opinion (and all others) to be greater than the court of law? Do you believe that we should not apply justice to your scenarios? If so, you cannot count on justice to be administered if you do things contradictory to the processes of law.

It seems like you want justice for supposed crimes yet are unwilling to administer it except through ways that are outside of our established justice system. I want justice to be applied to rapists and the likes, yet it seems like you're making excuses for (and therefore defending) the sites that you personally say facilitate them.

I know, of course, that you don't believe this so I must assume that there or either discontinuities in your personal philosophy or you are simply being infamatory.

Also, thank you for completely ignoring the substance of my statement and only vaguely contradicting the parts you disagree with.

fbc09 No.4115

>>4110
This is such an interesting response. It seems like you've thrown away your scruples, and how you want to seek justice for supposed crimes, in order to rebuke my argument (in which nothing was argued as I was simply proposing questions).

Your recognition that you are operating outside the court of law and exalting public opinion over it is, funnily enough, the answer to your questions and the solution to your problems.

>I’m not sure why people think a fat fetish app is somehow equivalent to the criminal justice system.


Did you not say that crimes occured? Should this site not be held accountable for such crimes or, at least, have our law be applied to it? Either you believe that a crime occurred and law and justice should be applied as a result, or you recognize that you are operating outside of the court of law and that we should not apply law because it may be contradictory to your ideological beliefs.

Here lies the root of your discontinuities and here is what you must fix

f332e No.4116

Apparently I helped set off a shitstorm.

>>4112
This has been seen pretty consistently on Feabie. I recall some time ago someone being tempbanned for shitposting, and people calling for her to remain banned. Keep in mind that the girl in question wasn't exactly part of the in-group, otherwise the exact opposite result would have surely happened. When MFSFW started, any time that a woman came out and made a statement that went against the narrative, they were dragged through the mud. A few months back, a girl I was messaging at the time got warned because she made a statement that set off one of the more social justice-y types on the site. I don't remember the exact contents, but I think it had to do with some girls wanting guys to dominate them or something to that effect.

>>4110
>Innocent until proven guilty only applies to the court of law. Not to the court of public opinion, not to private entities and their own policies and notnot to individuals expressing their personal experiences.
Herein lies the issue: Those who hold the guilty-until-proven-innocent mindset will surely do everything in their power to extend such a system to a court of law. Thus, rejecting such a mindset in all of its forms is important to keep it from being applied to the legal system.

352ca No.4117

>>4115

Le sigh. I want Feabie to amend their rules to better protect their users and allow them to share their experiences publicly. The way they can on any other social media site. Plain and simple. I have no interest in debating the legal consequences of “groupthink”. I actually pay for XL and would totally be happy to pay more if we had better rules and better options (like private profiles)

fbc09 No.4118

>>4117
Why do you and so many others pay for the services of a site that so blatantly contradicts your ideology? Do you hold it to a higher standard then the protection of women and your own personal comfort?

352ca No.4119

>>4118

I pay for it because I receive an absurd amount of messages and wouldn’t be able to see 99% of them if I didn’t pay. Having access to my entire archive is worth it for me

fbc09 No.4120

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>>4119
So funding a company that protects rapists (as you said or as is being claimed by those who are advocating for you freedom) is alright if you can see all the messages you get sent? This seems rather short sighted to say the least.

Also, everyone is entitled to their opinion whether it be rational or irrational. This does not concern me. I too believe that there should be a public database in which one can easily find out whether or not the individual you're talking with is a bad person. However, like the databases in real life that this will mirror, it must be done in an appropriate fashion (with law and justice in mind). Do you really want what you perceive as criminals to be punished or are you looking for exposure? The two are mutually exclusive, justice is usually silent. You also hold other social media sites as a bastion for what you believe feabie should follow. Do you believe that they are to be exalted as paragons of law? It seems more injustices are commited there than on feabie.

352ca No.4121

>>4120

I don’t want to pay for a bunch of reasons but I have around 1500 messages conversations my inbox and there’s no way I could actually use Feabie to communicate with people if I didn’t have access to all of them. When you don’t have XL it cuts you off at like 20 messages. Unfortunately Feabie limits pretty much every useful feature unless you pay

f18af No.4122

>>4121

>I get so many messages on this fetish website where I pose in scantily clad clothing with my friend woe is me


Jesus christ, the things women will complain about lmfao. This is like beyond firstworldproblems for sure.

There's literally TONS of options for communicating outside of the website, that's probably the dumbest reason to pay. And once again, you refused to answer his questions outside of the obvious one…

352ca No.4123

>>4122

I wasn’t complaining at all, simply stating why I pay for it. Yeesh

40b14 No.4125

Feabie sucks now. I've been a member since the beginning. It used to be a real community feeling. You could nearly talk to anyone you wanted to, and they would reply. You could have good conversations with people, just as friends. I say that because now I think every woman just assumes you want to fuck them. Once we exceeded 100k it's just been getting worse. As a male, I now have to do the same bullshit you do with tinder. I'm competing with 1500 guys to get some girl's attention. It's practically not worth it. The only women you can talk to are the ones who already like you anyway. The army of idiotic boot-lickers is a nearly impenetrable wall unless you're model tier attractive. I've been told I should model and it's still hard for me. I know, boo hoo, but still.

The newsfeed is terrible, too. I just don't think it's healthy for a person's ego to have 500 men ready to bombard you with attention at a moment's notice. It's like these men have brought down all other men's value down as a whole through their beta-ness, for lack of a better word. And now I have to play these games that aren't even worth it. Oh, she waited 16 hours to respond to a message even though we were talking just fine for a while and she's been on and posting status' since? Forget it. I don't even want to engage in the conversation at that point, unless we are already friends and we do that anyway.

And as much as the chans generally lean right, I do feel bad for the women. Yes, even in spite of their egos that have gotten built up by all the indians telling them to open bobs, they are just getting fucked over in the end. They might get laid, but a lot of them remain single into their 30's. They just get pump and dump'd by the more savvy guys and then they delude themselves into thinking the 500 guys messaging them are potential boyfriends. It sounds harsh but this is what I've seen. I'd say the popular models generally have a 50/50 success rate on getting a husband. These are considered the most attractive people in the scene. So go figure. Vanillas are totally ruining it, as well. I didn't mind them at first because they were generally cool, but now they seem to exceed actual feeders and feedees and they are insanely boring.

Not only that, we've had an influx of these women trying to suck money out of the chronic masturbators through being a feedee. Idk what it is, but with some girls you just get a scammy vibe, and no doubt some of them are. It's like the original feabians were there because of their love of the fetish. Now we just have attention whores and scammers, and the betas will still follow them off the cliff. No disrespect to paysite models either, I totally get their whole pay me to talk thing. But some random girl from arkansas? Come on. This shit is just getting out of hand.

1c492 No.4126

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>>4119

If you get so many messages, why haven't you been able to "close the deal" on any of them and end up in a relationship with a decent guy instead of constantly getting used and dumped by creeps and cheaters? It can't be that hard – other girls on Feabie have done it.

352ca No.4127

>>4126

I spent 3 and a half years in an on/off (but mostly on) relationship that just ended less than 4 months ago. I’m still trying to get over that, let alone trying to “seal the deal” with anyone else. I’m not trying to rush and find my baby daddy right now

0bc23 No.4128

>>4125
>Not only that, we've had an influx of these women trying to suck money out of the chronic masturbators through being a feedee.
I'd call that the "comodification of a subculture." It's not about the scene or "a community" or anything anymore it's about how much money you can leech out of it for your own personal gain. When a subculture is extremely niche and not very profitable you don't see that but the bigger it becomes the more who show up who are only in it for the money.

The attitude issue is mostly a numbers issue. If you have a more even number it won't be so bad as opposed to being bombarded. Good luck getting that to change though.

fbc09 No.4129

>>4127
You're replying to posts that deflect from the issue at hand. The trick to meaningful discussion here is simply ignoring them.

Why do you continue to finance the people who are protecting rapists? I know you stated why you originally financed them but do you have plans to terminate your subscription when you get unbanned? You might say that you keep in touch with a lot of friends on feabie and cannot terminate because of this reason yet, surely, if they were worth keeping around you would have already given them alternate means to contact you, no? You might also say that there is no other place to go. This is simply incorrect. There is not other place that offers you the financial base that feabie does, sure, yet there exists many other sites in which you can discuss feederism.

I simply cannot take your criticisms seriously if you bankroll rape accomplices because "I have a lot of messages"

Surely you realize how absurd this sounds and how it delegitimizes your rally for change

1c492 No.4131

>>4127

Why was it "on/off" instead of stable? Why did it end?

744c7 No.4132

>>4126
Why are you reporting your own post?

bec27 No.4133

>>4131

We had a very passionate/romantic/sexual connection but were very different people in a lot of ways and just need different things in a relationship. Nothing crazy, no cheating or anything like that, it just wasn’t working despite us being very much in love. He’s a great dude but there’s only so many times you can try to force something when it’s just not working. Such is life

f332e No.4134

>>4125
I usually don't even bother trying to communicate with girls with 1000+ followers at this point, it's generally not worth it. My message will usually get buried under others, and it feels like a lot of the "smaller following" girls are genuinely sweeter people regardless. I can think of like one girl with a large number of followers that I really like.

1c492 No.4139

>>4132

Was deleting to correct a typo and finger slipped, my bad.

e8196 No.4147

>>4127

You consistently posted about how hard dating was for you because the men pursuing you weren’t interested in marriage of having children.

You also consistently posted about your dates before you got back with your ugly ex boyfriend. You were single the majority of your time on feabie.

I don’t know what childhood trauma has caused you to become an emotionally crippled sociopath but damn, it runs deep.

bec27 No.4148

>>4147

Lmao my ex and I were apart for 6 months, not the majority of my time on Feabie. In fact my original Feabie account was all throughout our relationship. I’m not sure what makes you think you know more about my life than I do but I think obsessively keeping tabs on and insulting an internet stranger qualifies you for sociopathy, not me

cdd26 No.4152

>The court of law must reign supreme in contrast with every other aspect of society if we are to strive for justice.
>typed this on a literal pirating imageboard lmao

24e15 No.4153

>>4148 “obsessively” honey the only reason I know anything about your life is because you treated feabie like a diary and then took to this dirty cum pit to talk about yourself. Get help, baby.

352ca No.4154

>>4153

Thanks for the advice, you’re clearly a very stable genius

56dc2 No.4157

"we did it fur our girlz"
lies- fupatroopa effectively made sure certain girls were not allowed in the group because she did not like them, if it was for protecting women than she failed. so far at least 5 other girls have told me how they were rejected from that secret reddit.
that is why i knew this was all a shit show for "poor me, i need attention"

also people don't actually like her, at least 5 people came forward to share with me proof she stalked them and or abused them in some way.

she belongs on the list she made.

24e15 No.4158

>>4157

And so do you, bitch.

6e934 No.4160

>>4158
Who the fuck are YOU, then?

dfb9d No.4162

She is an abuser??? You must really be obsessed if you’ve talked so much about her for other people to come forward. You have that much time on you hands? You’re just giving her more attention at this point. Also the whole “she uses Feabie as her diary” no shit that’s what your supposed to do on a social media site. Here is a tip for yo, dont let your personal feelings of someone you never met get so bottled up because one day you’ll explode and look like an idiot.

f18af No.4163

>>4162

Did you delete your post and repost this fupa when you realized we have Post IDs here?

f18af No.4164

File: 1524953633477.png (58.79 KB, 2110x824, LUL.png)


dfb9d No.4165

Lol this isn’t fupatrooper and I deleted it because I am at her house and was on her WiFi. Lol so let’s calm it down cyber police. Also really your that insane in the two seconds for me to delete it you took a screen shot lol….come on now.

d82d5 No.4166

>>4165
lol ;d

fbc09 No.4167

It really disappoints me to realize that, through this incessant conversation about your love life, you have no interest in discussing pertinent issues. It seems like you receive more gratification via replying to obvious bait than you would discussing the ramifications of your ideological preferences or the fact that you fund accomplices to rapists at feabie.

It's obvious that you simply come here for the affirmation of your belief that there is some shadow sect of ideological counterparts that you must combat. Also, why tripfag? Is the extra attention that euphoric?

bec27 No.4168

>>4167

I already did that discussing with the Feabie admins. They basically said that you absolutely must report serious offenses like rape and harassment. I asked them how we could address issues that weren’t technically against the rules (like being in a relationship, constant flaking etc) and they said that it was ok to name people if you were making a statement (like “just a head’s up, X has a wife but is presenting as single) and not disparaging them (like “X is a lying, cheating asshole).

I thought naming names was against the rules period so I was actually pretty happy with the answer. Also I realized that they did respond to me reporting my rapist, but they “lost my ticket” and didn’t respond for a month. When they told me that, I finally responded to them with shots of My conversation with the dude in question and they permabanned him. That was a mix up on my end too so I’m happy with the end result tbh.

159ef No.4170

>>4168
little off-topic here butttttttt are you guys setting up a twitter or any social media for your clips store?

bec27 No.4172

>>4170

Probably a Twitter yeah. We just filmed this weekend so we should be up and running soon!

4790c No.4181

>>4111

Lol! So fucking true!

67e0f No.4189

>>4111
>>4110
>>4108
I know it is anathema to say what everyone thinks and knows these days, but women will always be believed when they claimed they have been raped. That's just human nature. Men are stronger and more aggressive and lustful and women are weaker and more passive and more internal/subversive with their salaciousness.

In the "old days" this was not a problem because there was a power exchange and a balance - the word of a woman was less easily believed and perhaps taken less seriously BUT once it was, strict punishments were in order. Once you cross the line, you were in for a bad time - including the death penalty.

The simple passage of time fortified this near-universal tradition innate to human nature until the modern era, where everything held by the perceived powerful overgroup has been deconstructed.

Now there is an imbalance where women can self-victimize and blame whomever they want for their own selfish gains, and therefore material pleasures. This is going to last on and on until our culture changes.

The good news is that nothing material in this universe is stagnant forever and things will change - the bad news is it may have to get a LOT worse before it gets better. Be careful with who you deal with and love…

beb50 No.4192

>>4110

1) IF anything Feabie is more at risk of the Anti-sex trafficking laws due to some people on there seeing it as a way to get money for favors etc. Being a creep oddly enough not part of those laws. The laws aren't about protecting sex workers which you seem to believe.

2) No naming and shaming is in place for good reason. It stops seriously damaging accusations being spread out of spite. With the mob mentality in some parts of the community and lets say a lot of men trying to "prove themselves" to women it's literally a disaster in waiting. One guy decides to go after some-one accused of being a rapist and worse case scenario an innocent guy gets murdered.

3) It's protecting the users from repercussions. No not just the person being accused of rape. You see in a number of regions you can sue for defamation if some-one falsely accuses you of rape and depending on the region these damages can include all court costs + any potential losses based on it. So lets say you accuse some-one of rape and some vigilante idiot phones up their work costing them their job, you could be liable for say a year's wages for them + if they'd worked their way up and are having to start again at a new company you can be liable for say 5 years of the difference between their old salary and new one.

4) 3 doesn't merely apply to the person making the accusation first. It can apply to the site and any-one else who parrots the accusation uncritically. So yeh if people just read a name on a list and go "yeh they're a rapist" and tell others publicly without some kind of further evidence then they are also at risk of a defamation lawsuit.

5) From a personal stand point, if you're publicly accusing people of rape you probably should be going to the authorities. Actual rape can be tested for and will have easy evidence of it. Same with being drugged. Drunked sex, not so much. Feabie's best move would be to have a "trauma" team or Trauma person on staff who advises a user and gives moral support to them to go to the police and report it.

>>4117
The issue there though is unlike most other social media site Feabie doesn't have a setting to talk to private groups. Individuals sure but private groups not so much so every-one can see it and any accusations without evidence or based on false evidence could make the user vulnerable to a defemation lawsuit.

E.G. Facebook has Options to send to friends only etc and Twitter has DMs plus replies to tweets aren't in the main feed.

beb50 No.4193

Feabie complaining from me.

1) I hate getting messages by people who open their messages with basically asking for money or offering to let me buy stuff.

2) So many dudes who I question how they managed to get onto the internet or if they just jump onto the local coffee shop wifi because they're reading comprehension is awful. I've had guys messaging me trying to chat me up and it's a case of "Really dude you didn't bother reading my profile at all did you?". More annoying are the guy who upon bothering to read my profile believe they can "turn me" or "Convince me" it's like "Dude fuck off I have no interest in you stop thinking your Bloody James Bond or something."

>>4125

I find it somewhat hilarious that I've seen some women complaining about how Feabie guys won't buy them anything or Paypal them money. It's hilarious it's like "Really you're complaining that guys aren't giving you money and buying you stuff for free?"

Oh and seriously the idea of "Paypigs" has destroyed a lot of the scene of Feabie as it would seem some on there have heard about that thing and they're hunting for that and nothing else.
(For those who don't know a Paypig is usually a dude, generally not seen as that attractive but they both have money, are submissive and actively enjoy being financially exploited by women).

What we're going to see on Feabie is a minor implosion as people leave the site because they're not there for actual sociability or relationships but for money.

The thing is apparently news of the site has also leaked to other communities on the web and attracted a lot of women who aren't model slim and attractive but very much at best are a little chubby who have flocked to Feabie setting themselves up as "starting gaining" or "Beginner Feedees"

>>4128
Funny thing you'll probably find if any-one ever looked into it.

A core of guys who follow literally any-one that's on there say maybe 1,000 guys.

It's similar on other social media sites too some guys will just see an attractive or moderately attractive woman and try to follow and add them. They follow thousands of people.

So yeh there may be women with thousands of followers but those thousands of followers may well be also mostly the same people also following hundreds or thousands of other models.

It looks like there are a lot of guys and serious imbalance but it's far closer to even than people likely think.

f332e No.4194

>>4193
>Oh and seriously the idea of "Paypigs" has destroyed a lot of the scene of Feabie as it would seem some on there have heard about that thing and they're hunting for that and nothing else.

I honestly have to give credit to whoever came up with the idea of treating people like shit as a profitable venture.

>What we're going to see on Feabie is a minor implosion as people leave the site because they're not there for actual sociability or relationships but for money.

This has been the case for quite a long time now, but I presume you mean people that aren't actually into the fetish and are also doing it for money, but people that just want free shit.

89c48 No.4196

I guess we're "turning" people with money. They say they are beginner gainers, but at some point they will HAVE visibly gain over time or they will lose interest from the crowd. "Stuff yourself with 3 large cakes for me in film, and I'll pay you $150."

89c48 No.4197

File: 1525400830039.jpeg (31.9 KB, 480x360, hqdefault.jpeg)

This is "yuuuge" for the economy. More food is sold, websites get more commisions, more people can can network and do business living out their fantasies all around the world, real or not. They can market themselves very cheaply, you just need a smartphone and know how to use social media. BOOM, you can live the dream. This is the free market economy, there is no better time to be alive.

89c48 No.4198

File: 1525428630978.jpg (80.93 KB, 885x560, jacques.jpg)

50 years ago - in mainstream media, people had to wait for Carry On to be on TV. There was none of this VHS recording or "on demand" streaming.

Hattie Jacques

89c48 No.4199

There must be a huge customer base of paypigs. Say you're bored husband, or lonely man. But accepts they can pay for a private custom video and maybe able to pay $50 to $100? Which is equivalent taking a person on a date, but for whatever reason you are unable to (married, you're ugly, or shy) but have money burning in your pocket. It would not be unreasonable to ask BBWs to make stuffing show, both parties win, and she gets to make an income and perhaps enjoy it too, rather than slog it out working 12 hours at the sweatshop dealing with grumpy demanding customers. I think people have to be up front honest and say what you are there for, or otherwise you will get the implosion at the end.

ffd09 No.4200

>>4197
no fuck you this isn't any free market, get away from me with that hayek shit

free to market yourself within very narrow constraints on a platform that's basically a monopoly

ffd09 No.4201

give me Keynes

f332e No.4202

>>4200
I'd consider it closer to an oligopoly, and that's talking about fat-specific communities.

f18af No.4203

>>4200
>feabie a monopoly
>only been around 3 years
>bbw scene been around for decades before that

Imagine being this delusional. Narrow constraints my ass, I literally saw a girl join the other day and proceed to post "So, how do I make money here.. lol". I know feabie has rules about soliciting on the feed but you hardly ever see anyone reprimanded for it. Go back to hashtagging #MAKEFEABIESAFEFORWOMEN please.
>>4165
This reads like one of those "But my brother downloaded cheats on my computer it wasn't me!!!!" posts. LMAO.
>>4192
There are too many well thought out points here for you to expect any sort of counterargument from her, lol. She's basically ignored all points already made here.

Can we just nuke the newsfeed warriors and be done with it? The world would be better off without them. I really enjoyed the week we just had with 90% of them banned. My local feed had ZERO soapboxing! It was glorious.

0bc23 No.4204

>>4196
Not really a positive thing. Congrats you'll have more people in the scene who do gainer stuff but nobody is really into it. They're doing it for the money and the only thing they care about in the scene is how many bucks they can screw a shmuck out of. The scene itself will be dead and the people who are actually into it will be alone.

89c48 No.4205

File: 1525463113867.jpeg (30.77 KB, 384x216, Tallie-1.jpeg)

Feabie is just another tool to market yourself, if you're smart.

f332e No.4207

>>4203
>Can we just nuke the newsfeed warriors and be done with it?

Better yet, expand the number of blocks men get to 100. More than enough to block each and every one of them.

f18af No.4250

>>4207
Would be nice, but probably won't happen. Apparently you can just set your gender to Woman and get the 1000 blocks, then change it back and you'll keep the people you have blocked.

Can anyone explain to me why fatties need to brag about how men will always hit on them, yet never date them? It seems like they're bragging about being spank bank material, or being a cumdumpster. Is it a self worth thing? It just makes no sense to me to brag about these things…

f332e No.4264

>>4250
Honestly, seems more common for them to complain that guys won't openly date them than anything else.

But if we're going by your claim, I'd guess it's due to how society claims that one's worth is largely determined by their attractiveness to others.

56dc2 No.4268

>>4164
LMAO
that is some good shit my friend

-also side note for miss fupatroopa-
https://youtu.be/nEpt_EIal-c
if you think i am obsessed with you fupa, you wrong girl.
you were following me on feabie and watching my snaps up and until I blocked your goofy ass, but best of luck selling clips and stuff with your white knight friends (or yourself… whatever you wanna go with today)
<3

little advice back- don't alienate half your audience and expect them to swallow your lies just because you have a gut, take care dumplings… see you on the c4s.

1c492 No.4273

>>4268

Hey Amatrix, you're pretty cool. (We've interacted a couple of times and it's always been chill.) Keep fighting the good fight against the Feabie hivemind.

018be No.4276

I decided to try using feabie, a girl that lived like 20 minutes from me messaged me and then I remember I had social anxiety and fled from the site because shit just got too real for me.

b5917 No.4280

>>4276
I don't actually know that specific feel, but still find it very relatable.

6e934 No.4286

>>4268
…I'm really not sure what's going on, here. :-/

f332e No.4288

>>4276
>Girl that's actually local messages you

I'm legitimately jealous of you. That shit never happens to me. And talking to anyone near me is like pulling teeth out.

1c492 No.4304

File: 1526238388020.jpg (10.81 KB, 315x315, b762ef8992da95e1b8820aff28….jpg)

>>4199

That's the thing, there's nothing wrong with being a camgirl if both parties are aware of the fact that it's a business transaction. But a lot of women on Feabie want to have it both ways, where they're getting cam money and wishlist gifts from desperate/lonely men while simultaneously using it as a "regular" social media and dating site. This obviously leads to a ton of drama.

Also, it's not really being a paypig if it's an actual "cash for services" exchange. The thing about "findom" (financial domination) is that it IS a legitimate fetish, in the sense that there are some guys who really are "paypigs" and genuinely get off to the idea of being a long distance money slave to a woman who "rewards" them with degrading talk. Psychologically speaking, it's probably in the same category as other BDSM/submission fetishes.

As a guy who gets a boner to the idea of a morbidly obese woman stuffing her face to get even fatter, I'm the last person who should be complaining about how someone else's fetish is weird. But what activates my almonds is when women who aren't actually feedees assume that feedism works the same way except with food. The idea of being a humiliated long-distance food slave to a woman who doesn't actually interact with me in real life has 0% in common with what turns me on as a feeder.



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