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Smart fat girls Anonymous 06/24/2019 (Mon) 15:41:39 Id:d3b99e No. 7948
You ever met a really intelligent fat girl. I don't know how conceited i am to say this, but I don't know if I could ever really be attracted to a girl if she doesn't have a brain.

Most of the fat girls who I've known are kind of ditzy white trash. All the girls who have had attractive personalities imo have been skinny.
>>7948

Weird. You were probably unlucky.
Its totally different from my experience.

I can't even recall any dumb fat girls from my experience. Twisted, crooks, liars, psycho ones, etc. But none of them was dumb.

All dumb ones I've ever met were all skinny instead. Only one was a bit chubby, but she was not even close to 200 lbs at like 6 feet tall.

On the side note though, many fat girls were quite eccentric. But don't let that foul ya.
>>7949
I probably need to branc hout more. It probably helps that you're american. Are you american? I keep hearing from american guys that in places like the mid-west, 90% of the chicks are fat, and that the only thing you need to be in order to be fuckable is to be relatively thin.

I live in the UK and it seems like the only fat chicks are single mothers or way older than me (which I'm not opposed to dating in principle but as a virgin, that shit's kind of extreme).
Overeducated American city dweller reporting in.

It depends on the weight class IMO. As people in general get more obese due to diet/lifestyle, more highly educated women are becoming chubby to mid-BBW because they're naturally big, or are too busy with work to exercise, or just like to eat.

Once you get to SSBBW tier, though, it's a different story. I think this has less to do with raw intelligence than with social class. Educated, ambitious upper middle class women don't let themselves get that hugely fat, especially in big coastal cities where people of that background tend to live and where being skinny because you eat organic/artisanal instead of fast food is a sign of class and wealth. The only exception is when there's some underlying mental health issue expressing itself as binge eating disorder. I've known a couple of SSBBWs over the years with seriously impressive credentials (multiple advanced degrees, sometimes from Ivies) but they always were pretty obviously cracked in some way. Sucks for my dating life but that's been my experience.
Yes. I dated one for a while, very smart, highly educated, fat girl here in Norway.
I've known a few

Sarcastic fat girls with glasses will almost always melt my heart
>>7952
goddamn it. Sucks I'm into SSBBWs then.
>>7948
Only ever met one smart one. I've seen ones that have gone to University, but still come out dense.
>>7955
I'm Norwegian too, once you get into the 150kg + area there's usually little intelligence to find (if not, she'll be extremely mentally unstable. But that's even worse).
That being said, I know some highly educated fat girls, althought I'm safe to say that the average BMI is lower when it comes to higher educations.
I briefly dated a big girl, she was educated and seemed school smart.. but she wasn't smart in other ways. She had drunk driven and crashed TWICE, which is some of the dumbest things you can do... twice.
>>7970
The one I met was about 150kg, and she was very much "body positive", especially towards her own weight, and seemed to care very little about her obesity. But she seemed like a rare one, both in size, intelligence and attitude.
I work with an SSBBW. She's not my boss, but she is in upper management. One time I did work with her directly, but I think I might have creeped her out. She may have gotten the vibe that I was into her (I was trying to check her out), but she was not into me. And besides it would be a workplace power dynamic thing. Too bad though. I would smash.
>>7973

Oof, I know those feels. At my old job there was a beautiful SSBBW (I'm guessing 400+ on 5'3", so we're talking ROUND AF with a cute face) who was a lower level manager in a different part of my department. She worked in a different building so I only saw her a couple times a year at department-wide events, and every time it was a huge challenge not to stare or do anythong that would come across as creepy. (I looked her up on Facebook and saw she was married so I wasn't going to take any risks lol.)
Interesting conversation. I'm an Engineer with a BS and I can't tolerate "stupid" people and except 2 girls I've only ever dated BBW - a 20 was the smallest size I remember on any of them. All except one had a BS at least and all were very bright, socially apt and excellent conversationalists. All loved their bodies and 3 gained weight, be it together or focused on her.

Now that I think about it, there was one other that really was stupid. She was by far the best eater too and gained over 50 pounds "for me" in an effort to get me back over 3-4 months or so. It worked enough to get be back to her house once, but once she started talking I just stood up and left.
>>7975

Out of curiosity, what country (or state, if you're in the US) do you live in? This hasn't been my experience - smart, mentally healthy, supersized as opposed to just chubby, AND enthusiastic or at least willing to actually gain more? Best I've been able to do is 2 out of 4. But I'm in NYC so maybe it's different in parts of the country that aren't quite so obsessed with thinness and fashion.
>>7977

I'm in Eastern North Carolina. Truthfully there are a lot of fatties here, and very pretty ones at that. The % of bright ones is still small, but I think the amount of overweight people is so numerous it overcomes the odds. Your problem there is being mobile in the city.

You have to remember that cleaning your plate and "Eating Good" is still a virtue here that people hold near and dear to their hearts.

Come down here. People are nice, weather is good and the girls are fat.
>>7977
Being mentally unhealthy isn't a dealbreaker. I'm an autist, so I don't know if that makes me less compatible or more compatible for someone with mental problems.
>>7971
The one I was talking about used to be on Feabie, but she no longer is :/ I really hope it's not a WLS case now.
My SO. Hence our relationship.

She also has intelligent (but taken) friends, who are mostly over 200 pounds. I won't elaborate on accolades too much for privacy's sake, but one is a dual major in not-too-easy subjects, with a respectable GPA. Knowledgeable in her field.

Contrary to some people's experience here, these people mostly live in the northeast corridor. None are single, so they wouldn't come up on dating sites and such, which makes me wonder if some of what's going on up north is just that people are getting paired up before they use a dating site.
>>7990

What kind of weights are you talking about, though? "Over 200 pounds" covers a lot of ground. Even here in NYC it's not difficult to meet highly accomplished women who weigh 200-300 (including my current partner, FWIW.) But women who are 400+ SSBBWs are a different story.

Of course, >>7979 is right to point out that NYC is a unique case because it's one of the few places in the US where you really HAVE to walk or take public transit instead of driving, which is a hard barrier once you hit a certain size. But even when I lived in the suburbs rather than the city proper, actual SSBBWs were extremely rare, and I do think this is a culture thing compared to the South and Midwest.
I think she's considered a bbw at this point but @allhailkingsteph on instagram is incredibly hot, probably 240 lbs but only 5'3, and she has a bachelors from NYU and a masters from Columbia.

I don't know if Boberry is super educated, but she seems more like a well educated upper middle class girl than some of the other models.

Lastly, when I was getting my masters I dated a girl for about two years who was also getting it. She had a body like bigcutie marilyn's but with slightly smaller boobs, a slightly bigger belly and a much larger lower body. She was probably 400 pounds when we started our relationship and 470 by the end with all of the extra weight going to her belly. She wasn't really a slob, she was just very confident because she felt she was so smart. Because of this, she often wore sweatpants or leggings with a too tight t-shirt or tank top so her belly was visibly hanging out. She also didn't have BO or anything like that, but she did "overheat" easily and sweated through a lot of her clothes. Once in particular, she was wearing a tight but long enough white tank top on a very hot summer day and I could see the lines of sweat rolling down her belly and dampening her shirt until I could see her belly, stretch marks, deep belly button, dimples, and all, through her shirt. All of this was super hot to me but gave her the appearance of a slobby, lower class fat girl to others, even though she was so smart.
>>7982
Shame.
And WLS? what does that mean?

Also, forgot to mention, but super-relevant. I briefly dated a 110-120kg ish girl that was actually a genius, got out of 'videregående'' with top grades in everything except gym and biology, where she got the next best grade. And she spent her free-time reading and painting. Exercise was of course completely out of the question.

I had actually forgot about her until I found a certain book today. One day she came to me to have some sex, and when we were undressing she noticed I had for some reason this book lying on my table. A poetry collection with beautiful paintings of nature, and she read the book while being half-naked before we did anything.
To this day I have no idea where I got that book from and why it happened to lie on my table, but it gave me a nice memory :)
>>7993
I'm talking mostly between 200 and 300 pounds.

400+ is indeed a different story, and I doubt there are many people in NYC that are that big, particularly in Manhattan. It just seems impractical.

My SO has two more distant friends that approach or might even crest 400 (it honestly gets hard for me to tell when you get that high.) Of those, one seems above average intelligence (has a masters degree and holds a good conversation) while the other seems slightly below... like, not stupid exactly, but prone to making bad life decisions. Neither live in NYC proper, though both live within a two hour drive in different directions.

I'm working with a small sample size, but 50% of SSBBWs I know being intelligent is nothing to sneeze at. Especially when OP was just asking about "smart fat girls", which could technically start at 175+ depending on height and personal definitions.
>>8003
WLS = weight loss surgery :(
>>8002

>She wasn't really a slob, she was just very confident because she felt she was so smart. Because of this, she often wore sweatpants or leggings with a too tight t-shirt or tank top so her belly was visibly hanging out.
Pfft. Pointless giving us information like "she is has a bachelors degree" without naming the subject. Same with "Masters" degrees.

Might as well talk about getting a degree in obese mobility, a degree in degree studies and a masters in Cartoon Network studies.
>>8018
Well, they don't want to give too much info about their gfs away on this sketchy site. That's a pretty fast way to lose an SO, actually. That being said, I do wonder if having a fancy degree from an expensive college really makes you "Smart". It just signifies that you were willing to suck up and do a lot of extra busy work...if you ask me, that makes you kind of a sucker. It certainly doesn't make you any smarter, indeed putting your brain through the paces to excel in school can actually dual your intelligence. School emphasizes rote memorization and following text book solution...real intelligence has little to do with either. The more of this you subject yourself to, the less used to actually having to think or solve novel problems you'll be. For instance, toss an Ivy league kid into a situation where they haven't studied and try and see if they can figure out what to do by themselves. Chances are they'll come running to you for help after 5 minutes of gormless staring.

All of this is to say I'm a college drop out and I'm bitter. Smart fat chicks are rare because being fat is correlated with poverty. Poverty is correlating with lower academic performance. If you think academic performance and having a big brain are the same thing, there you go.
>>8029

Ivy League graduate, can confirm
Typically, higher levels of education correlate to higher incomes and job opportunities, which tend to be in larger cities. There seems to be an inherent bias against extremely overweight people in a lot of the more educated circles, because it is generally associated with low motivation, attentiveness, and unattractiveness (regardless of whether or not this is fair or true). People with education/money who also have a weight problem will try to combat this by spending more on healthy food options, gym memberships, etc., which poorer/less educated people don't have access to. Combine this with the fact that in cities it is harder to maintain obesity with the more active lifestyle that comes with not driving door-to-door wherever you go.

In other words, keep in mind that the vast majority of overweight women would probably choose to lose weight if they could. Statistically, very few of them would choose obesity if they were given the option. So if they are educated enough to make a good living, have access to a healthier lifestyle, are exposed to the social pressure to be more fit, and on top of all of this don't enjoy being obese in the first place, you've got probably a decent answer for why you don't see a lot of highly educated extremely overweight women.

In other words, you're looking for is

A) Someone educated who either unable to lose weight despite their efforts (due to disease/genetics/whatever) or is ambivalent to their weight despite social and professional pressure (rare, but trending positive due to the body positivity movement/Lizzo/Shrill etc.)

or

B) Someone educated who also has a sexual interest in being overweight, which is extremely uncommon despite what the webmodel community would lead you to believe

That's not to say none of those things exist, obviously there are lots of fish in the sea. But it seems pretty clear that it's more likely you're going to see obese women who are less educated because less educated/poorer communities tend to have unhealthy lifestyles and less societal pressure to be skinny. It's why obesity correlates to income, and is higher in the South in the US. Most educated people would not choose to be overweight and have the means to address it.
>>8029
>All of this is to say I'm a college drop out and I'm bitter.

Tesla never finished college, and he's more prolific than any actual engineers of his time...
It really depends on what you mean by "smart". If you're talking book-smart, >>8066 pretty much nails it. But completing college doesn't necessarily make one smart, or vice versa. There's multiple ways to cheese grades, and many tests are simply a test of memory, rather than an earnest test of applied skills. Even just graduating can simply be a matter of knowing the right people, even moreso for actually getting a job in your related field.

That said, as far as "Having a good head on your shoulders" smart, one girl I can think of immediately pops to mind. As far as I can recall, she did Associate's level stuff at absolute most. Pretty poor too, still hasn't been able to move out despite being in her 30s. Medical issues keep her from doing anything more than entry-level work, and have also played a role in her basically being in mid-BBW territory. Too fat to be chubby, but not fat enough to be BBW community levels of fat. She's been wholly unable to lose weight, due to a combination of previously-mentioned medical issues and absence of resources. Still probably one of the most level-headed people I know overall, easily consider her to be a smart individual.
>>8066
In my experience too, it seems women that come from a Spanish background tend to remain overweight even if they get more educated. I recall Latina Woman who was in her mid 20s who was either very chubby, or just barely a BBW, who also had a phd.
>>7949
I too have a problem with crazy fats. In fact replace intelligence with sanity or stable emotions, and I would have made a thread for that.
Seriously, can anyone attest to finding a bigger girl who's not batshit insane? Because all the ones I keep meeting seem to be bipolar, have heavy anxiety or depression, or some other thing going on.
>>8066 nails it IMO.

Off topic, but just for the sake of it I'm gonna greentext quote this line from >>8072 so that any underage b&s lurking this thread can learn from it.

>Even just graduating can simply be a matter of knowing the right people, even moreso for actually getting a job in your related field.

As a now middle aged guy, this is the number one piece of advice that I wish a trustworthy adult had given to me when I was 18. You still want to study hard and get good grades, but the real value add of going to college is the opportunity to meet, network and do internships with people (including your classmates) who will become your job contacts after you graduate.

I was book smart but not street smart when I was in college, and I still kick myself for not understanding this at a time when it would have made a big difference in my future prospects.
>Crazy fats make my Subway soar

Yeah, but would you be dating crazy skinny girls too if that was your thing? Just depends on what's attractive and what isn't in your particular case.

There's crazy everywhere bruh - you know that by now. Just have to figure out what threshold you can deal with.

My wife is 370 something at 5'9" and she is positively the best female I've ever met. She is very smart, makes great money - shit she makes me a better person. Hence why I got married and fap to pics of fat chicks on the internet instead of IRL.

The Flea Market Dollar Bin of completely Buttfuck Crazy that I sifted through for 12 years before I met her though.... I didn't there was a sane one in the bunch. You got to look, and occasionally look past how fat their thighs are, unless you're just trying to get laid. If that's the case you just gotta take your lumps.

My wife has gained around 100# over 8 years, so she's not a feedee, I'm just a good cook. All the true feedees I dated were borderline clinically insane.
I just want more of them to be self aware of what they are saying. I just read from one girl's instagram story is that we shouldn't be praising a fat girl for losing weight because it is offensive.

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