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Anyone else really turned on by a bbw lifestyle more than the actual fat? Anonymous 07/10/2019 (Wed) 18:22:59 Id:98d68b No. 8246
This is a chain of thoughts I've been having recently on this particular attraction. I wanted to share to see if there are any like minded people.

First, I was brought up in a fairly controlling and disciplined environment. Catholic family, went to Catholic school for a long time, not allowed to have snacks very often, quizzed nightly to make sure I aced my tests in school, parents never so much as passed gas in front of me. That sort of thing.

Long story short, I grew up to be a person who likes to have all my ducks in a row. I hate holding debt. I need things to follow a plan. I do preventative maintenance on my car to minimize any surprise risks. I save money aggressively. On and on...

The one kink in all of this? I'm turned on by the idea of a woman with minimal self control or inhibitions. The idea of an attractive woman who just does what feels good, and damn the consequences. Somehow, at some point in my life, I made the association that that means she'd eat whatever the hell she wants no matter how fat it made her (and would embarrassingly pass gas in front of others without care if that's what her body needed to do), would laze around in a generally slobby kind of way instead of being disciplined and exercising because lazing around is easier, and would have sex multiple times a day just because she wanted to.

The idea of a person like that, particularly one that I'm in a relationship with and helping to live that uninhibited lifestyle, is what I'm attracted to. Someone pursuing instant gratification all of the time, because it's not something I can ever allow myself to do.

The fat itself is more of a testament to the lifestyle. When I see a larger woman, my mind immediately goes to "wow, she must not exersize much and probably eats whatever the fuck she wants," so it's more of a secondary signifying trait.

When my SO (bbw) makes plans to get a bunch of stuff done or exercise but I get home and see her watching TV with a crumpled bag of fast food at her feet, that turns me on. When I watch models, I get off by thinking about their probable lifestyle in tandem with their actual bodies. When I read erotic literature, the pieces that delve into lifestyle always do the most for me.

Does this sound familiar to anyone out there? Is anyone else this particular flavor of FA?
There are some aspects of the lifestyle that I really enjoy, others don't matter much to me. The slob element is never something I've enjoyed. There's a lot of different "sources" that constitute what I do enjoy of the lifestyle.

I think you're spot on that there's an element of freedom and instant gratification that's really attractive. To me it's very counter culture. In my mind (whether it's true or not) every girl I see at the gym is only there because they're desperate to cling on to their trim physique, for themselves, their partner, or just general peer pressure. They skimp on meals because they're watching what they eat for the same reasons. This elements are limitations, and it feels unsatisfying.

In contrast, it feels like women who are fat and oblivious/impartial are totally satisfied with themselves and not restrictive. You can always tell the difference between someone who is fat and at peace with themselves and someone who is fat and hates it.

That combination to me shows a happy woman who doesn't care what people think about her, who doesn't ever deprive herself, and who might likely be more passionate about other facets of life.

I think a lot of this was molded by the first relationship I had. I was dating a slightly chubby girl who was very negative about her weight and was constantly dieting and losing weight. She eventually gave up and gained the weight I met her at and then some. Her demeanor totally changed and she was so much nicer, we're still friends. I also discovered my attraction to even larger women because of her.

Flash forward to now, my fiance was the one who "came out" to me two months into dating. I got her a dress that was too small and she thought maybe I was trying to encourage her to lose weight. She was around 300 pounds at the time and sat me down and told me she was only going to get fatter. She loved food too much to restrain herself and was fully aware of it. I was definitely ok with that. In general, restraint is the last word I would use to describe her.
I just like watching women gain and overeat, not really focused on the fat. In fact a lot of the time I don't find the end outcome that appealing and prefer them before they started gaining. It's just the fattening process that I find interesting. Once they're fat I lose interest.
The lifestyle thing, as well as all the other aspects you've listed are definitely a big part of it, even though the fat is just as much a part of it for me.

Having a positivity towards going against social norms is something that I like in general, so this goes for skinny girls just as much. Breaking rules and having a "don't give a fuck" view of lifestyle and choices is just really satisfying. I guess this goes somewhat outside or further than what you're talking about, but I can still relate to everything you said. Also somewhat the growing up part, just not as strict.

The girl being chubby or fat is definitely the biggest factor for me though. I guess it also could be more of a sign that some of the other aspects are present in a girl's personality before you get to know her.
I totally get this for similar reasons, I feel like it's a huge part of the appeal. I grew up with a strict, structured, and polite family. Religious, extreme emphasis on manners and self-control, health freaks, and my mom has always been obsessed with losing weight despite never being fat. I've been told that it's "unladylike" to eat as much as i go, or that a girl like me needs to "learn to eat a salad." Also was constantly hounded about being "productive" all the time, and not being lazy, and still get slutshamed for not being ashamed about my adventurous sex life.

The whole aspect of letting yourself go and living freely is one of the hottest things to me, and already thinking fat is hot goes hand-in-hand with it. Nothing is hotter than a big girl who embraces her body, does what she wants, eats what she wants, and isnt embarrassed about being a bit of a slob or a sex fiend. This goes for other women I'm into, and also for myself. I do my best to live that lifestyle of living freely and doing/eating what i want, although it's kinda hard when I have chronic anxiety and have had stuff about healthy eating and living to plan for later drilled into my head. Still though, it's so freeing and kinda hot, and so much nicer than having every aspect of yourself determined by holding yourself back.

I do wish more girls could be like this too. I've dated girls who were heavy but massively insecure about their weight, and refusing to eat at all or even refusing to let anyone (even their gf) see their belly out of embarrassment. A confident, empowered, free-living fat girl, slobby or not, is one of the hottest things.

That said tho, I might also have a liiiiittle bit of a slob kink...
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This rings very true for me. Honestly, when I watch stuffing videos, I spend half the time just wishing I could live with at level of freedom. To just say fuck it all and stuff my face with my favourite foods 24/7.


I don't have a religious or overly-strict family background other than my parents hounding me about academics. I'm a pretty instant-gratification person already: I have shit self-control and no long-term planning ability. I constantly beat myself up about not being more organised, put-together, physically active, etc, but I know I'll never do anything about it, as has been the case all my life.

And I fucking love food. There's a very weak thread of self-control holding me to my half-assed attempt to vaguely estimate my daily calorie intake. I'm scared that if I stop paying attention, I'll end up like these models. It's so exhausting and depressing to have to hold back. When I watch them do stuffings, I feel like I'm watching the manifestation of true happiness. I spend every waking hour stressing and slaving just to bare-minimum pass the impossibly-hard discipline I chose to study, and then I come home to jerk off to "tee-hee, I just spent the whole day lazing around in bed eating cake :^) " I'm so jealous.

Don't get me wrong, this is just one component of my inexplicable fetish. I have a general sexual fixation on food (e.g. I find it hot to watch guys eat, even though I'm only into gaining for girls), but I think the gratification it brings people is a big part of it. I also like to watch/listen to people masturbating, for probably similar reasons.

I was just thinking about this to myself, actually, when I was watching a stuffing a bit ago. OP you really hit the nail on the head.


>and would embarrassingly pass gas in front of others without care if that's what her body needed to do)

I'm particularly into this; the idea of someone just doing what their body needs to do to clear up more room for food without a second thought is hot. The confidence it takes to do that is sexy to me. Doing that in front of someone either means you do what you want without shame or it means you're intimate enough with that person to do embarrassing stuff in front of them, both of which are really hot ideas to me.



I guess I know that deep down I'm an instant-gratification person with zero self-control, I'm sick of trying so hard to pretend otherwise to people, and I long for a put-together man to accept and love me for who I am. I kind of wish a repressed neurotic type like OP (no offence) would love me after I let myself go and become a human blimp. I've always idealised relationships like that, even though on the surface they kind of irritate me. I mean, you can do better. You have discipline, long-term planning, and a good dose of caution. These are high-level executive function skills that people spend most of their lives trying to learn. Why go for a girl who can't even do any of that?

Still, while I started off just getting off on stuffings in a shallow way, I recently find myself fantasising more and more about being a huge "goddess"-type and having a loving bf who worships me and all my grossness/slobbiness, or the other way around (having a huge "goddess"-type gf who farts and burps in front of me and loving her anyway).
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Quality discussion thread, OP. Well posted.

For me, the attraction to the look and feel of fat bodies is what comes first. I get off to extreme deathfeedist/immobility stuff, but the core of the fantasy for me is always that the gainer feels the same way I do about fatness and wants to be fat so overwhelmingly that they're willing to accept the negative consequences that come with it, consequences that to the outside world look like self-destruction and loss of self-control. "I don't CARE about my cholesterol or my mobility! I want to be fatter!"

But it's ultimately not really about self-destructiveness or self-control, it's about the fat. I don't find other self-destructive behaviors like smoking or excessive drinking attractive, I'm not into "trashiness" in looks or lifestyle, and most slob stuff just grosses me out.

I've felt this way about fatness for as long as I can remember (in kindergarten I was aware that when I was around the fat girls I felt differently than around other girls), and I'm pretty sure than any related kinks I have were ones that glommed onto this already existing attraction to fat.

That said, while my family wasn't particularly religious, I was definitely raised with the "be self-disciplined and get straight As 'or else" attitude, with a lot of neuroses about money and class. (Long story, but my dad was the classic "poor scholarship kid who became successful" and had unresolved issues around it that he passed on to us.) I think that later in childhood, my complicated feelings about this stuff got mingled with my existing attraction to fatness. So I definitely get where some of the stories in this thread are coming from, except for me it's in the opposite direction:

>fat girl in a ragged t-shirt huffing cigarettes and belching out grease as she watches daytime TV, gaining weight from a diet of candy bars and cheap fast food
not hot

>SSBBW executive who's an ice cold money-motivated bitch in the boardroom and uses her hard-earned fortune to enable her lifestyle of extreme gluttony and dominant fatness in the bedroom
hot

>spoiled rich fat girl tastefully made up and draped in expensive clothes and jewelry, ordering half a dozen entrees at the most expensive restaurant in town, using her wealth to enable her fantasies of getting as fat as humanly possible
help, my dick just blasted off to the outer reaches of the galaxy

I wonder sometimes whether if I didn't already have tendencies towards fat and feedism, this aspect of my psyche would have expressed itself in a finsub or sugar daddy fetish.
That's kind of at the heart of it, I think. Gluttony and lust are definitely the coolest sins. And together, it's even better.

Weight struggling really turns me on too.
That's kind of at the heart of it, I think. Gluttony and lust are definitely the coolest sins. And together, it's even better.

Weight struggling really turns me on too.

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